A few years back I was bullied for having autism, the year I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS autism was the year from hell for me. I got really depressed and a little suicidal because of the BS I had to put up with, and with people. My parents also got really worried and my mother helped me the best she could. Now people don't pick on me that much and i've learned to stick up for myself, my autism ain't even as bad as it used to be.
I hope with all my heart that you, your daughters and anyone else being bullied and abused will be alright.
My great grandma was abused by my great grandpa, but when he turned that abuse on their kids, she left him. The police found her and returned her to her husband. Women's rights have come a long way since then. There are not only police, but groups that can help abused women and children, even provide a home if necessary. The sad fact is that, for thousands of years, masculinity has been linked to vio.lence. "Boys don't cry" is drilled into young males to ensure this tradition survives, but it can change. Even my great grandpa changed over time. Through the constant wisdom and patience of his wife, he realized that he couldn't even tell her he loved her because he had been raised to think that feelings are "feminine" and just how destructive hiding his feelings was. By the time he became a grandpa, he'd lecture my dad and his siblings on the false ideas of "being a man." Things can change if people work together to change them. That means standing up and not letting vio.lence in any form, verbal or physical, continue. Even if you are a bystander, stand up. If you're afraid, call someone of authority. And be there to listen to those who have suffered abuse.
AB, if somehow my words seemed demeaning, I am so very sorry! Please believe me that I didn't mean to upset you further. I was just making a general comment on abuse the way people talk about their cancer stories on your cancer pics. I wasn't addressing you, but just trying to add a positive spin, like I always do, for whoever reads the comments. You may think it's either naive or condesending of me to always be positive even if I can't come up with much but the obvious, but I feel like it's my job to be positive and to never show anger, even against that which deserves it. I'm still a real person, though, and it is hard being positive all the time, but I honestly do see some good in all things. And, honestly, anger scares me. Maybe that makes me unqualifued to try to calm it down, but what else should I do? I don't know the whole story, so I feel like I can't comment on your situation specifically, only on the general concept of abuse. I'm the first to admit that there is a whole lot that I have yet to learn about how the world works, but I try to question and understand everything. I want to learn and I'm open to listen. I just want to help somehow, but I guess not knowing what to do makes for poor advice. I'm sorry. So, prayers and hugs for your daughters and you! I wish I could offer more.
Aw RR I bet we all wish we could offer more ): Life in general is scary and twisted to me, I wish everything could be alright for all of us. I mean just look at how people in third world countrys live, it sucks, and yet in second and first world countrys we all still struggle in someway somehow. I believe that there is a light at the end of the dark tunnle, even if you can't see the light yet someday you will and then life will get better. I hope you all survive to see that day :) I have faith that I will. AB stay strong!
Listen good angelbear. You have to stand up for yourself, everyone has to in some point in time. Life is not made to suffer, but to live wonderfully. I've been though a lot of things myself too, but when I look back at the problems I fixed; it makes me feel good that I stood strong against them. You have to make a difference, we can't by a simple comment, but by our actions in our daily life. Get rid of problems, before they get worse. Stay strong, and take it easy. Love TECHNO-BITS
Anyone who is having abuse trouble, you're in my prayers tonight. Anyone who abuses someone else, YOU'RE GOING TO HURT. GO AHEAD. IGNORE MY COMMENT. IT'S NOT GOING TO CHANGE THE FACT THAT YOU'RE GOING TO HURT. YOU'RE GOING TO BEG FOR MERCY. MAYBE SCREAM A FEW TIMES. BUT THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO STOP THE ABUSE. DO IT BEFORE THE PAIN ENDS, AND YOU BURN FOR ETERNITY!!!
AB/HB1: I pray that somehow you'll decide to go online and look at the comments on here, the last painting on your Angelbear account, and know that you are in my thoughts. My first reaction to you leaving Colors was shock and surprise, especially since you had just created your new account. In the back of my mind, I wanted to blame myself for not being more attentive or supportive, but what more could I have done? Then I felt sad for the loss. Then other emotions mixed together and I thought... Maybe it's best that you left Colors. It was obviously upsetting you and you had so much more important things to focus on, namely your family. In the grand scheme of what matters in life, what is Colors 3D anyway? In all honesty, I even contemplated quitting. After all, you had the right idea, the right priorities. But, in the end, I couldn't hurt people like that. When I first commented on this painting, you made it sound like I was missing the point because I pointed out that people can change or that many men were raised to not respect feelings or women. But I stand by what I said. When my mom was suffering depression, it was her beating me that made her finally seek help. When my grandma got drunk with a guy and he "took advantage" of her, she quit drinking the next day. When the babysitter that my mom refused to believe was abusive tried to get me to deny that I had lost consciousness after being beaten in the head with a meat cleaver, the blood and fainting spells finally got me a new babysitter. When my best friend and I weren't talking because of some lie about me and then I was beaten into the concrete by older kids, we became friends again. This idea of standing up against abuse isn't enough to heal. You have to see the purpose in it. Otherwise, every time you get abused, you have to start the healing process over. It's not just fighting back or running away. It's realizing the point of it all, understanding and growing. At least, that's my thoughts...
i agree with t-bits second comment because tbits your a dude girls in general not everyone but most cant just beat the crap out of a dude but you need to stand up for yourself.me and my mother and siblings have been abused by my dad we stayed for years didnt do anything but finally left and now we're doing better.
i used to live with my mom who did dru#gs and would sleep with randome men. one stayed for a long time. he threw me into my bed frame to my bunkbed and he moles#ted my sis. i moved to live with my ausome dad and step mom. my sister came later. im alot happyer now. but im not allowd to visit my mom because of him. he even asked my sis to marry him. hes 43, she is 17. O.O
hey angelbear i hope you and your family are ok im very worried prayers and hugs ps my mom works at a cancer department at a hostpital in my state so my family has been dealing similarly to what you have been going through, thankfully we are lucky enough to not have it in our family history please keep in touch ok! and a tip for everyone that i learned is no matter what may try and bring you down.. live your lives to the fullest and don't let the jerks get to ya otherwise they win without you even trying to stand up for yourselves there is always a little hope in the world no matter what and try to smile at least once a day i know that helps me.. k i'll stop rambling now :D
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27 Feb, 2013, 6:09 am
Who gave this likes, please pray for my daughters.
27 Feb, 2013, 6:13 am
Pray, for me, and anyone who is going through this, Please
27 Feb, 2013, 10:31 am
i went through this before, it's a little better now, but happens occasionally
27 Feb, 2013, 12:05 pm
We will all be strong together *hugs*
27 Feb, 2013, 12:54 pm
Daughters? How old exactly are you?
27 Feb, 2013, 11:17 pm
hey im with u all the way! ^_^
28 Feb, 2013, 12:35 am
ppl r abusing ur children? that's just wrong.... -_-
28 Feb, 2013, 1:44 am
I'm so sorry that you're going through difficult times. I'll keep you in my thoughts.
28 Feb, 2013, 2:35 am
A few years back I was bullied for having autism, the year I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS autism was the year from hell for me. I got really depressed and a little suicidal because of the BS I had to put up with, and with people. My parents also got really worried and my mother helped me the best she could. Now people don't pick on me that much and i've learned to stick up for myself, my autism ain't even as bad as it used to be.
I hope with all my heart that you, your daughters and anyone else being bullied and abused will be alright.
28 Feb, 2013, 5:56 am
My great grandma was abused by my great grandpa, but when he turned that abuse on their kids, she left him. The police found her and returned her to her husband. Women's rights have come a long way since then. There are not only police, but groups that can help abused women and children, even provide a home if necessary. The sad fact is that, for thousands of years, masculinity has been linked to vio.lence. "Boys don't cry" is drilled into young males to ensure this tradition survives, but it can change. Even my great grandpa changed over time. Through the constant wisdom and patience of his wife, he realized that he couldn't even tell her he loved her because he had been raised to think that feelings are "feminine" and just how destructive hiding his feelings was. By the time he became a grandpa, he'd lecture my dad and his siblings on the false ideas of "being a man." Things can change if people work together to change them. That means standing up and not letting vio.lence in any form, verbal or physical, continue. Even if you are a bystander, stand up. If you're afraid, call someone of authority. And be there to listen to those who have suffered abuse.
28 Feb, 2013, 8:53 am
So yeah, how old are you? ( I asked erlier)
28 Feb, 2013, 9:38 am
Komoda_Wolfgang, WHAT DID I TELL YOU, WHAT DID CAROL TELL YOU, HUH?
28 Feb, 2013, 9:39 am
RR, I will deal with you later, you don't know the laws where I am at
28 Feb, 2013, 10:23 am
who's abusing u? i wanna find them
28 Feb, 2013, 10:29 am
where u live dont have women rights?! O.o where do u live?!
28 Feb, 2013, 10:48 am
AB, if somehow my words seemed demeaning, I am so very sorry! Please believe me that I didn't mean to upset you further. I was just making a general comment on abuse the way people talk about their cancer stories on your cancer pics. I wasn't addressing you, but just trying to add a positive spin, like I always do, for whoever reads the comments. You may think it's either naive or condesending of me to always be positive even if I can't come up with much but the obvious, but I feel like it's my job to be positive and to never show anger, even against that which deserves it. I'm still a real person, though, and it is hard being positive all the time, but I honestly do see some good in all things. And, honestly, anger scares me. Maybe that makes me unqualifued to try to calm it down, but what else should I do? I don't know the whole story, so I feel like I can't comment on your situation specifically, only on the general concept of abuse. I'm the first to admit that there is a whole lot that I have yet to learn about how the world works, but I try to question and understand everything. I want to learn and I'm open to listen. I just want to help somehow, but I guess not knowing what to do makes for poor advice. I'm sorry. So, prayers and hugs for your daughters and you! I wish I could offer more.
28 Feb, 2013, 3:36 pm
Angel... Im really worried about you, I hope everything is okay, Im thinking of you, Many *Hugs*!!!
28 Feb, 2013, 9:57 pm
ok RR
01 Mar, 2013, 1:59 am
Aw RR I bet we all wish we could offer more ): Life in general is scary and twisted to me, I wish everything could be alright for all of us. I mean just look at how people in third world countrys live, it sucks, and yet in second and first world countrys we all still struggle in someway somehow. I believe that there is a light at the end of the dark tunnle, even if you can't see the light yet someday you will and then life will get better. I hope you all survive to see that day :) I have faith that I will. AB stay strong!
01 Mar, 2013, 6:29 am
Ok this may sound a bit harsh. But, when someone abuses you, Beat the Sh!t out of them. They will later leave you alone.
01 Mar, 2013, 6:45 am
Listen good angelbear. You have to stand up for yourself, everyone has to in some point in time. Life is not made to suffer, but to live wonderfully. I've been though a lot of things myself too, but when I look back at the problems I fixed; it makes me feel good that I stood strong against them. You have to make a difference, we can't by a simple comment, but by our actions in our daily life. Get rid of problems, before they get worse. Stay strong, and take it easy. Love TECHNO-BITS
01 Mar, 2013, 11:12 am
i agree with legoman RR and techno-bits
01 Mar, 2013, 10:28 pm
I get mental abused by kids at school. I cry EVERY FU,CKING DAY......I hate it..
02 Mar, 2013, 1:35 am
i do too batty5 *hugs* but not that often anymore *squeeze* SROP ABUSE!! DX
02 Mar, 2013, 3:50 am
Yea, easier said then done Techno, been there done that :/
02 Mar, 2013, 4:17 am
angel bear check my gallery please,i made a drawing just for you!
02 Mar, 2013, 6:03 pm
*hugs* r u feeling any better AB?
AB u still there? :o
i made a new painting btw
02 Mar, 2013, 8:54 pm
What?
"Pray for your daughters"....
I hope your daughters will be okay! Wish I could give some hugs but I can't....
03 Mar, 2013, 1:08 am
DONT TELL ME SHE'S GONE! DX
03 Mar, 2013, 1:41 pm
*cries*
04 Mar, 2013, 12:18 am
Anyone who is having abuse trouble, you're in my prayers tonight. Anyone who abuses someone else, YOU'RE GOING TO HURT. GO AHEAD. IGNORE MY COMMENT. IT'S NOT GOING TO CHANGE THE FACT THAT YOU'RE GOING TO HURT. YOU'RE GOING TO BEG FOR MERCY. MAYBE SCREAM A FEW TIMES. BUT THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO STOP THE ABUSE. DO IT BEFORE THE PAIN ENDS, AND YOU BURN FOR ETERNITY!!!
16 Mar, 2013, 10:32 am
AB/HB1: I pray that somehow you'll decide to go online and look at the comments on here, the last painting on your Angelbear account, and know that you are in my thoughts.
My first reaction to you leaving Colors was shock and surprise, especially since you had just created your new account. In the back of my mind, I wanted to blame myself for not being more attentive or supportive, but what more could I have done? Then I felt sad for the loss. Then other emotions mixed together and I thought...
Maybe it's best that you left Colors. It was obviously upsetting you and you had so much more important things to focus on, namely your family. In the grand scheme of what matters in life, what is Colors 3D anyway? In all honesty, I even contemplated quitting. After all, you had the right idea, the right priorities. But, in the end, I couldn't hurt people like that.
When I first commented on this painting, you made it sound like I was missing the point because I pointed out that people can change or that many men were raised to not respect feelings or women. But I stand by what I said. When my mom was suffering depression, it was her beating me that made her finally seek help. When my grandma got drunk with a guy and he "took advantage" of her, she quit drinking the next day. When the babysitter that my mom refused to believe was abusive tried to get me to deny that I had lost consciousness after being beaten in the head with a meat cleaver, the blood and fainting spells finally got me a new babysitter. When my best friend and I weren't talking because of some lie about me and then I was beaten into the concrete by older kids, we became friends again. This idea of standing up against abuse isn't enough to heal. You have to see the purpose in it. Otherwise, every time you get abused, you have to start the healing process over. It's not just fighting back or running away. It's realizing the point of it all, understanding and growing.
At least, that's my thoughts...
12 Apr, 2013, 6:11 am
abuse is wrong should tell someone you trust
about it dont let away with it
27 Apr, 2013, 7:11 pm
I agree!
14 May, 2013, 9:18 pm
i agree with t-bits second comment because tbits your a dude girls in general not everyone but most cant just beat the crap out of a dude but you need to stand up for yourself.me and my mother and siblings have been abused by my dad we stayed for years didnt do anything but finally left and now we're doing better.
10 Jul, 2013, 8:02 pm
i used to live with my mom who did dru#gs and would sleep with randome men. one stayed for a long time. he threw me into my bed frame to my bunkbed and he moles#ted my sis. i moved to live with my ausome dad and step mom. my sister came later. im alot happyer now. but im not allowd to visit my mom because of him. he even asked my sis to marry him. hes 43, she is 17. O.O
21 Oct, 2013, 2:45 am
NO MORE ABUSE IM SICK OF BEING TREATED LIKE NO1 CARES ABOUT ME
21 Dec, 2013, 7:53 am
hey angelbear i hope you and your family are ok im very worried prayers and hugs ps my mom works at a cancer department at a hostpital in my state so my family has been dealing similarly to what you have been going through, thankfully we are lucky enough to not have it in our family history please keep in touch ok! and a tip for everyone that i learned is no matter what may try and bring you down.. live your lives to the fullest and don't let the jerks get to ya otherwise they win without you even trying to stand up for yourselves there is always a little hope in the world no matter what and try to smile at least once a day i know that helps me.. k i'll stop rambling now :D