Maybe they're dealing with something too and didn't have the right amount of energy to help.

@JuniperStar thing is i dont NEED his help i just want to show him i care and still love him even though im going through a hard time. and he GIVES ME THE SHORTEST ANSWERS.
i say "hi i love you"
he says "hi"
i say "mwah"
he says "mhm"
like BOY DO YOU ARE OR NOT

DO YOU CARE OR NOT*

i do care linnea

im so dne like bro you dont need to comfort me just say you love me back and dont give me the coldest answers whn i ask for affection

@-Blue_Sunflower- yeah right

im sorry

@kissiesfromlixxie i understand that, but you can't change how he acts in the moment. He may be dealing with something at the moment and maybe affection isnt helping right now. I 100% see how its frustrating to you, but i also see his side of the problem too. Maybe try to ask him if somethings wrong. Still be loving, but dont be overly romantic about it. Like a small conversation :>

@JuniperStar the thing is tho my way of showing love is being super romantic and clingy and trying sso hard to let my lover know im there for them and not shutting them out
like i said, yes i wanted (and sgill do) want to end mylife but i dont need comfort, i just want to be the one comforting them

@-Blue_Sunflower- ok bro.

im sorry lin
ill be better i ppromise

@kissiesfromlixxie ohhhh okay.
Well, as of right now, instead of getting mad at him for not showing the same level of affection, take a step back, take a deep breath, and go do something else to take your mind off it. That'll give you both time to recollect yourselves and then you guys can come back.

@JuniperStar nono im not mad bc he wont show the same level of affection
im just mad because he didnt even say that he loved me back and just pushes me away when i try to care for him, its not not he doesnt have the samelevel of affection bc idc about that, its that he keeps pushng me away and being cold while im trying to calm mysld down

@-Blue_Sunflower- you literally say tht every bicker we have

also boy i never said i was gonna kms i said i wanted to

and then being affectionatr is a way i cope so i forget about my problems and focus on other people

@kissiesfromlixxie ohhhhhh okay i understand that more now. So you giving someone affection distracts your mind from the problem. Got it. Well, what i've heard, going cold is his trauma response. He doesnt want to do it, its just a natural response. Even though you may not want to get out of your comfort zone, you both should try to form a new, better response when it comes to these things :> To avoid less arguing