@-Silly-

we can continue here, if u like.

okay.

is there anything i can do to help? im going to pray for her, ofc. and i thnk we should pray for her to find Jesus, He helped me through some of the darkest parts of my life @-Silly-

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i was not actually a believer all my life, i found Jesus a few years ago

im trying to get her to se that, she doesn't feel him.
i've prayed, the last time i told her she should pray?
"no."
"why not?"
"because no."

she made a post abt somone who "wasn't me" (souned JUST like me) and part of it said "you bring up jesus each time i vent, like i belive in god but dont want him to be my go-to"
im trying SO hard.
And she's "working out" her belifes.
i dont want to say the wrong thing and have her leave me.
but i feel like a failing child of god.

if im being honest? i fear god so much.
Not in a healty way.
i feel like he looks donwn at me everyday

you aren't failing, we cant make someone believe and have faith, we can only give them a small nudge in the right direction. no one can control a heart. Yes, prayers are much needed in this situation. how are things at home with her? from what i heard, they dont celebrate Christmas, so are her parents not Christian?

no, her mom is VERY Christian.
Im actually inspered by her.

also can you tag me when you talk? i cant see that you messaged me without it :3

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yes, i have felt terrified by Him as well. But it brings me peace to know He wont Hurt me, Jesus is the reason why, and He loves us so very much. i know i can never be good enough for Him, but nobody can, and thats the point. Jesus died to give us protection. Ive often just sat and sobbed, just talking to him, not some fancy prayer, just talking. i see him as a friend someone to talk to, and who listens, and cares deeply

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yea, sorry :sweat_smile:

shes havng a hard time with her bf.
it was "i love him sm" like 3 months ago.
"he doesn't care. i bet you 50 bucks he'll leave before 2026"

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i am often confused and dont know what to do in situations like this. If i where her, i would go talk to my mom, ask for prayers, talk, cry with her, it brings immense relief. I would seek out help from her.

wait, she jusr said
"idk man, in gonna pray and hope 2026 fixes itslef"

she said she just gets more anxious when she asks for help.
no everyone has that kinda relationship where telling thier mom stuff is easy, trust me i know.

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yes, i can see that. my view is that, we are quite too young for dating, only date when you are looking for a partner to marry. But as she is already in this relationship, the two need to have a good, long, deep conversation, in person. Vent to him. A bf should be your best friend, someone u can lean on and cry with. Emotions like that and transperency about them will make the relationship stronger

she feels bad showing them, her "bad" emotions.

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yea, even i sometimes dont tell her everything, and its hard. but i had this amazing moment where i confessed something i was doing to ner, and we both talked, cried, hugged eachother, and in the end i felt so much lighter, and we could laugh

ive told her dating is hard ESPECIALLY at a young age

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that is understandable, i want everyone to see me as perfect and always happy too. But relationships like that, especially if they want to stay together, then they have to share that sort of thing, imagine getting married and having NEVER done anything but smile and be perfect. nobody likes that, it might sound nice at first, but then it just feels likd u r growing apart. keeping secrets from eachother, not telling the other something.

it is smart to be transparent in a relationship

yeah

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i think im def gonna interact with her more, grow a friendship so that i am able to tell her these things

she seems like a nice person and i would be happy to be friends with her anyway

:3 yeah.
okay so uh- i'm talking to my other friend and... she said
"im gonna tell you smth tats gonna make you reslly mad... itd something juni said anout you and told me not to tell you but i have a lump in my througt. please dont tell her i told you"
ad now im shaking wnat do i do?

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say a quick prayer for patience and the ability to forgive, stay calm

yeah i am.
she thinks im fsking a condition for attention and that i put it in my bio jst bc i was coping her

what you will read might really upset you, if that happens, sleep on it before you act, it will make u feel a lot better and make a better desicion on how to respond

man... thats a bit jumping to conclusions of her...

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def dont tell ner u know, that will ruin her relationship with that other person. @-Silly- we have to think of a smart way to deal with this, for now, say nothing

so i have episodeic tourrests.
i have tiçs that come and go, i CAN NOT fake that.
i cant control what i say or do, i can hold back a tic if i try hard enough (like swears and stuff)
but i have LITERATURE HURT MY S€LF (not on purpose) from this.

oh yeah im not gonna say anything, im not mad at all actually..?

anyways-
I put it in my bio, i took it down because nobody cares about it.

but i am not faking, yes, i felt bad for it because i felt like i was faking but i CANNOT control it.

yea, i know what tics r.

wait, se thinks you FAKE that? now THATS low, to think that someone would mock a condition

i actually cant think of a way to respond to that... probably best not to bring it up in conversations eith her, if the subject is to pop up, let it be from her @-Silly-

yeah, im a little ang3y bc my friend told me waht she said.

"yk she doesn't have tics or autims. i know her irl and shes faking it for attention, she put it in her bio after i put it in mine. shes faking"

yes, i got autiusm confued with ADHD mb.
she hasn't seen me irl in almost 2 years.

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thats horrible, im so sorry. doesn't she know that, in this position u can say the same of her? (ik u wont, cuz u r too nice, but still) it would be equivalent

my tics started abt 3 years ago when we were long distance.
she has seen me twice irl in 3 years.

what? sorry i didnt understand you :[

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i mean that u can say she is faking. it would be the same as her saying that of u. u both haven't seen eachother in quite a while

yeah, thats also kinda annoying me.
ALOT can change in 3 years.
like when ppl say her ED, her autiusm, LITERARY ANYTHING abt her being fake?
i defend her.
not agree.

maybe what needs to happen is give her a bit of space, check up on her once in a while ofc, maybe for a week or so, she needs to cool down @-Silly-

oh this was a little while ago (my friend) said

i dont want her to feel like im leaving her
"trust me. you'll leave like everyone else"
she said that a few months ago to me :laughing:

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okay... then nvm.

maybe in time she will notice u arent going anywhere.
keep in a god relationship with her, the more she knows you, the more she will trust you and see who u really r, and that u would never fake anything like that

i put 100% into this friendship and get 35% back.

RALRLY is it 100/100

i feel like she only cares about me when shes in a good mood

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prayers...

prayers, loyalty, love, and time

thats what she needs,
and above all, a strong relationship with Jesus, but that is for her to do

and who knows? maybe this valley she is in is to strenghten her faith, trials bring u closer to God, u just need the right mindset.

none of the "y r u doing this to me?" He has a higher plan that we can never understand

OH my relationship with God/Jesus is NEVER
"why are you doing this to me"
is normally
"why do you love me when i do this to you?"
like when my one of my father figures died?
i DID NOT blame God.
i prayed he got to heaven.

thats what it always seems like

but, i say this all the time,

she may not like u, but she loves you

the relationship might be tense, but that doesn'tshe mean she doesn't care 4 u,

its like when u get in an argument with family, u r anger against them, but you dont want them to die, you may wish them the worst in that moment, but if u think about it, then u notice how much u need and love them

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thats good, im so glad to hear it :)

of cousre :3

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u r very strong

and very strong in ur faith as well, u have been through so much, that is probably why your faith is so strong, now it is ur friend's turn to do the same. with gentle encouragment from Christian friends, ofc

oh yeah, im actually uh...
kimda proud of myself for not ending it.
with the stuff i've beem through? people would have dont that.
my sster was crying to me one time telling me how strong i was from all the stuff i've been through.
she doesn't even know the whole story.

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thats so sweet, see? emotions shown build strong relationships :) man, i want to hug u, u r so awesome, i want to meet u in person so bad :sob:

for real :sob:
your so kinda and stong alwell btw

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tysm, ur amazing, thank u for always being there for me :)

yeah...
it took us YEARS to actually have a good relationship.
Like since i was 7 i thougnt she actually ddn't love me.
we lived in different staes so when she came to vist i was of course really exited, especially because she was my big sister and shes cool.
it wasn't untill like 2 years ago i relized she actually does care about me.
"i relized that you yourself are your own person, and your not just a person your my sister"

(np! ill always be here)
but now we live in the same house and share a room.
we get along very well actually-
yes she gets on my nerves sometimes but so does everyone.

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:heart: that makes me so happy, u have no idea :)

so maybe its jst gonna take some time for everything to be okay with juni

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yea, she will probably think about it and come to a conclusion, and hopfuly her relationship with Jesus will be strengthened in this period of her life

wow okay im gonna cry now.
"she said, and i quote 'so fking annoying"
what my friend jst said...

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oh.... im so sorry, thats horrible...
sometimes crying makes me feel better, so go ahead,
im sure she loves u, she is just going through stuff right now

this is wht i get? after all my engey being poursed into her.?
i love it when my best friend calls me "fkkng annoying" :laughing:

im cying now. thats fine, i just need to be the little cry baby i am.

@-Silly-

luv u, girlie u r very loved and appreciated:heart: please dont ever think otherwise, no matter what is said

oh great shs online again.

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to cry is not weak, it shows that u r willing and brave enough to show and release ur emotions

shes on youtube so it doesn't matter.

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okay :)

youtube is a dangerous place tho, so that worries me.

im sure thats what currupted her thoughts in he first place

im still hurt tho.
i think im gonna not talk for a while.
i need a break but dont need to leave.
i'll only talk if she talks first so im not so "fking annoying"

yeah i've told her the stuff she watches leaves a mark on her brain but oh well guess someone else didn't listen to me

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smart move, good idea

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something tells me everything ive said u have told her, we have very similar views

okay shes talking to me (shes on the game)
shes asking how im even friends wjth her bc shes "ugly" and im telling her i see her for her and not her looks

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insecurity. thats very relateble, actually. though it sounds stupid when u urself arent the one saying it :sweat_smile:

shes talking abt how shes having a hard time trusting people and that she actually half trusts me "your a good friend" dude im so confused-

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she's already starting to notice the fact that u have been with her thru all her (excuse my french) cráp

dude, i don:t mimd the french :sob:
im sorry that sometimes i swear. i know its not good and im trying to no, jst when i get pretty upset ill say sttuff like that.
"okay im ggonna go to sleep and watch kpop videos because im obssesed
goodnight twin"
"aright, goodnight" -me

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thats, okay, i often curse to myself, its bad, but i do :sweat_smile:

well, at least she is being a bit nicer, i hope she gets some rest :)

dude im so confused.
shes all buddy-buddy with sm1 who used to bully her. i know they made up but still... Thier acting how we uaed to...

AND shes now friends with somome who used to bully her FOR FAKING HER AUTISM... i was there, i KNOW what he has said. he's said shes faking more then her autimed and is only trying to k1ll herlsef for attention.

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ugh, thats disgusting, honestly, the inconsistency, one of my biggest pet peeves in people. ill just think of it as she made up and all is forgiven and leave it at that so it doesn't frustrate me as much

im jst confused and a little hurt ig.

IM SORRY AM I KEEPING YOU AWAKE???

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naw, its all good, i normally just stay up doing nothing, so this is a nice replacement to doom scrolling or whatever i usually do

ahh okay :3

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yea :D

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im listening to Just Like You by NF, and man does it hit hard, especially after a coversation like this one

idk if u heard of him before, he is a Christian rapper, but he can, and will sing. bro has been through horrible stuff, and its so relateble, i love all his songs

ooo

maybe ill listen to it :3

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i def recommend him

load

alrighty :3

hey uh... do you think its wrong to think our friendship is healthy thwn me and hers?

here r some songs i recommend (all of them, but some i like the most):

Sorry ft james arthur
Let you down
Lie
Remember This
If you want love
Mansion
when i grow up
mistake
home
bullet
happy
running
hope
prideful

ohh thanks

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no. i dont think so. we just have connected in a different way and chose to be patient and understanding of eachothers flaws

i do hope ur relationship with her strengthens, even to the point where its better than ours, im not jealous :)

awee ty :3

do i comfort well?
do i give good advice?
am i someone worthy to talk to about life problems?

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ofc, girlie :heart: why do u think i go to u to vent? u always have something smart to say, u always make me feel better.
is everything okay?

its fine. thamks for asking.