hey gomi

@Papercuts Yeah Paper ?

@BunnyBeans im not feeling too good mentally and i really dont know if i can help anyone anymore im scared ill make things worse so It just feels off when i try to help and no one listens it makes me feel horrible i cant help im so stressed i want to help i really want to help

@Papercuts Paper...I completely understand. In fact, almost exactly the same thing has been happening to me. I tried to resolve a familial issue that's been ******* since before I was born with my gramma...I figured it out. I knew exactly what the issue was . My parents genuinely agreed and hadn't seen it that way before, And yet she never listens. I was emotionally wrecked during that fight. And it's like it was all for nothing. And yet... sometimes you have to understand that sometimes (con)

@Papercuts (con) ...some things can't be fixed, or helped, completely. Some things won't go the way you might think. The way you expect it to be fixed. It's sad, I know...but, personally, I think that, while one should always keep trying to reach people and help...there's a point where you just have to sit in the dark with them. Where you just have the give up the ghost and move on. Obviously, you can always keep trying (I'm very optimistic when it comes to that...!! ) , but...if it's hurting

@Papercuts you and you're getting no results whatsoever, no one appreciates what you're doing, and it's doing nothing but hurting you, then...you either have to slow down and try a new approach, or just give up, because, as much as I myself don't know this lesson...sometimes you have to retreat and attend to yourself, take care of yourself, because you genuinely matter. You do. And if you want to keep helping people, then if someone you're helping isn't appreciating or benefitting from that help

@Papercuts And you're working yourself senseless for that....? Please remember to take care of yourself. Binge your favorite tv series, read your favorite book, chat with your favorite people. Just remember: please don't overwork yourself. Take care of yourself. Please. /gen

@Papercuts TL;DR : Your wellbeing is what matters at the end of the day. Take care of yourself, please. Please.

@Papercuts I'm glad that you're being so kind to people. Genuinely. It's an incredible gift--your kind of compassion is hard to come by nowadays. Yet if that kindness is not being appreciated by the people around you and isn't working at all , AND you're hurting yourself doing it? (in other words, no gain for your pain) Than there's better places to put that kindess into.

@BunnyBeans thank you- this really helps me- im genuinely happy that you are one of my close friends- i think i let people vent to me too much and when i dont know what to say i get scared- i want to help them but sometimes idk what to say- i might take a break from letting people vent to me but idk

@BunnyBeans i always tell people to help themselves and to take time for themselves but i never do that myself- i really needed this conversation- thank you so much.

@Papercuts No problem, Paper. ^^ I understand the feeling--I get a little scared sometimes too when I don't know what to say back, but you just have to remember that you're not all-knowing, and people don't expect you to be such. I'm not omniscient either, and sometimes I don't know what to say either--instead, I just try and talk it out with the person and give them the comfort they need if I don't have the advice. I'm glad you came to me for this conversation, too--it was very mature of you

@Papercuts (con) to let me know about this and vent it out rather than keep it in and ruin yourself. Again, just remember to take care of yourself, please ! ^v^

@BunnyBeans thank you so much gomi

@Papercuts You're welcome , Paper ^^