Time for some real stuff, some venting and all that. So leave now if you don’t like that shit.
This is the first time I’ve been able to complete a picture of myself. Since the start of the school year I quickly learned that I couldn’t stand the look of my own face. We had to make self portraits for art and I could hardly look at the mirror or pictures I was using as reference, I just couldn’t draw myself. I don’t know why but there always seems to be something wrong with me, be it physical appearance or something else. When I think about it, I don’t think I ever really liked how I looked and once high school came around it got worse. Some days I’ll look in the mirror and feel fine but most of the time I’ll notice the bags under my eyes or the ache on my face and not want to go to school, not want people to look at me. I’m starting to hate hearing myself talk, making me more quiet than usual, when I talk to people I have to distract myself else I’ll focus on my voice and stop talking. I never realized how much I stutter…one of my friends brought it up during a presentation I was doing, now I die of embarrassment whenever I falter when speaking.
I feel like all of my friends, irl and online secretly don’t like me, that they tolerate me until I leave. Even people I’ve known for years I feel like I can’t talk to anymore.
I don’t know if something’s wrong or not, but I hate pitying myself. Having self pity now a days means you’re an attention whore and that you’re just cont.
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26 Apr, 2017, 2:20 am
trying to get people to feel bad for you. Because of that I can’t talk to my friends anymore, because I feel if I say any of this to them they’ll push me away. Even when some of them reassure me it just sounds like lies.
It was really hard posting this, my nerves were haywire and honestly…I’m afraid of what people will say. I try to avoid venting, I don’t like feeling like a burden to others. Hopefully this is just a stupid faze and will just, go away?
I’m sorry for how messy this all is, if it’s bothering anyone I’ll delete the text and put one of my usual perky things in there instead. Sorry for bothering you all.
I do actually like how this came out though, I mean, I don’t look that pretty but the painting looks simple and nice.
Another thing: to the people who did DTs with me, I promise I’ll draw the designs you gave me. I’m just really busy and unmotivated at the moment. I’m just going to try and draw what I want when it comes to me and hopefully I’ll get to them soon. But I promise I love them all, thank you all again for them.
26 Apr, 2017, 2:30 am
I'm so sorry, Griffin, but you know that none of that is true. Why would I be following you if I was only "tolerating" you?You are a wonderful and lovable person, and I know you're simply beautiful too. Don't tell yourself that you're ugly or you'll never see the beauty in your face!
I read about a chief on an island whose daughter really wasn't all that attractive, and because of that nobody wanted to marry her. But finally, a man came and asked to marry her, and so he did and moved off with her. Years later, the chief came to visit them, and he found that his daughter was actually beautiful, and stunningly so. He asked the husband what he did, but all said was that he told her she was beautiful every day. She heard it so much that she came to believe it, and it actually became true.
My point is in sharing that account is that when you tell yourself that you are beautiful, it will really come true. Don't let yourself believe that you're not pretty, or the light in your face will never be able to shine. You're beautiful, Griffin, and you believe it! ^-^
26 Apr, 2017, 3:22 am
*insert motivational speech*
Hey! I love ya Griff, you're amazing and your art is amazing! And this is lame, I'm tired, but I'm you're friend and I love that we've become friends :D
26 Apr, 2017, 5:01 am
Awww nooo, I'm so sorry, Griff! *hugs* I've felt that way before, maybe not as severe, but I stutter sometimes, too, and I think I look goofy with my glasses on, but you can't let yourself dwell on that. Don't let yourself think that your friends aren't sincere, either--we all truly care about you! My heart ached when I read this, I wish I could give you a big hug TwT
And, just in my opinion, if this is a self portrait, I think you're very pretty. You shouldn't be ashamed of yourself. :3
26 Apr, 2017, 7:40 am
Hey, pal. I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. Feeling like you're less than sucks, I know. But, truth is, you're really a great person, and beauty is subjective, so don't worry about the way you look. You do you, regardless of how you think others see you. I hope this helps, but I get the feeling I'm looking at the picture through a key hole, metaphorically. I sincerely hope things do get better for you.
26 Apr, 2017, 10:49 am
also i can say that i dont really like how i look too, and i have a quicky voice too also youre not alone with this!
26 Apr, 2017, 11:15 am
BUT
i think i speak for all if i say we dont only tolerate you, you are a great friend! also to me you count as a good friend - you were one of my first followers, you always wrote such wonderful comments under my pics and you gave me great designs, and you still here, that means a lot to me! im thankful for all that
and theres nothing i dont like about you, even your hairstyle (if it is the style you wear in reall.) is rly cool, or the human style you used to drew this is very good too
also you see you are welcome
you are good how you are dont stress yourself!
27 Apr, 2017, 12:51 am
Re: I understand what it's like to feel as if I don't have any friends, but I've learned that there's always somebody who cares. I'm glad you spoke up, or we would've been left in the dark about your feelings. ^-^ I'm happy that you are my friend too!
27 Apr, 2017, 2:50 am
Griffin, I've always felt the same way about myself, you're not alone here. ;) for me, I've always been struggling with self-esteem issues because i feel like I'm ugly. Yet,i refuse to put make up on. But, I've always had this "mask" on, hiding my true feelings, and yes, I also question whether people truly like me or not. Acknowledge the fact that you and i, are pretty much the same i guess! We all go through this faze, it just being a teenager. Don't let yourself think negativity, make sure to keep your chin held high! Stay positive and, talk to people when you feel down. I know this is an of motivational speech but I'm trying hard! :)
27 Apr, 2017, 6:51 pm
hEY
I MAY NOT KNOW YOU MUCH
BUT YOU'RE AN AWESOME AND BEAUTIFUL INDIVIDUAL
I LIKE YOU
ALL THESE OTHER PEOPLE LIKE YOU
YEAH
YOU'RE COOL AND I HOPE THAT WE'LL BE ABLE TO HELP YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF
27 Apr, 2017, 8:24 pm
It's ok to speak out, I know the feeling of fear of ridiculed, and there are people that do seek attention, BUT I know your not one of them, and it's not good to hold in those feelings and I'm glad you shared them, because your friends care, and I consider you my friend, I was and still do get tease for my looks and the way I am, and it weigh down on me just like how you said, I would tell myself I'm ugly just like Others would, I would tell myself I'm stupid just like they said and believe I was broken trash, I would cry a alone and know one would hear me, but deep down in my heart I knew what I told myself was a lie, and that I really do have value, I do have a purpose, I have a beauty that is unique, I am love. Griffin Though we have never met in person you have been a blessing in my life, you accepted me when others would have throw me out or made fun of me because of my spelling, and because of you I have learned to love writing and believe it or not it was one of my biggest fears and greatest shame. Your art work amazed me when I first seen it and ever pic send thin, you are extremely talented for your age and I'm excited to see you grow in it. You are a truly amazing, talented and beautiful person, and I'm honored to call you friend. :)
When life gives you lemons, make waffle because they taste better anyway xD