Let's Help ScarTheWolf! by Bully Free Zone

"i need advice
my friend who used to be my bff back last year is now kinda not talking to me? She just all the sudden stopped and got new friends who she talks to 24/7 and now i feel like the person who she goes to when all her friends are busy or gone :( like it just all the sudden happened and i know people usually move on but it stings cause we really been through a lot of drama and stuff together."

INSTRUCTIONS: Comment below with advice for @ScarTheWolf.

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painted on a Nintendo 3DS
11 Nov, 2016, 10:58 pm
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Rogue Ranger

11 Nov, 2016, 11:08 pm

The best approach is honesty, but considerate honesty. When she does make time for you, tell her that you miss her and don't feel like you two spend as much time together. Let your feelings out, but be careful not to sound like you're accusing her. You can even admit you're jealous of the time she spends with others and that you understand sometimes friends move on; you just hoped that wouldn't be you two. Friendship is founded on being open and honest with each other, even if sometimes it hurts, but the reason I say to avoid sounding like you're accusing her is because that may make her defensive. She may not even be fully aware of why she moved on and you two can work through this together free from anger. And, if she does decide to keep moving away from your friendship, at least you know you two talked and tried to work things out. Sometimes people change, but at least give an open and honest dialogue one last try before the end.

Neapolitan_Cat

11 Nov, 2016, 11:11 pm

It's sad when former friends were once close but drift after awhile. It has to happen sometimes, if it does it's not meant to work. It's even more difficult with best friends or romantic partners. Trust me, I've been through rough times with my bf where it separated us for a bit. It was the hardest time of my life. You can always try to mend the damage even though it will never be the same. Or if it can't be fixed (if your bff doesn't want to put forth the effort) you can only take time to move on. It's basically death of a kind. Death of what once was. And just like with physical death, it takes time to heal, maybe even as long as many months. Don't be worried if it's been, like, 2 months and you still find yourself getting choked up. Allow yourself to grieve and have confused emotions. Don't feel upset that your friend has moved on and you haven't. For me, my bf was happy not being a couple last year and I was still in shock. It happens and you aren't alone. Don't keep to yourself

Neapolitan_Cat

11 Nov, 2016, 11:12 pm

Find people to surround yourself who do like you

lilsxint

12 Nov, 2016, 1:02 am

thank you so much omg ;;

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