(continued from description) "After this my mental health started going downhill. I felt awkward and unwanted by my other friends, so didn't approach them about it. In the summer, I finally broke down and told my parents everything. By then I'd developed social anxiety and was in physical pain from it. We messaged my friend, telling her most things as well. She apologised and said she'd make it up to me, but she's done no such thing. To top it off, my mum's been diagnosed with an incurable eye condition that will render her blind within the next few years.
As a result of everything, I have social anxiety, get easily restless, frustrated and emotional and..all I'll say is long sleeves are currently a must.
I know nothing said will change anything, I just need advice on how to cope.
Thanks for reading
-Mel"

INSTRUCTIONS: Comment below with advice for @TFmel.

Wait! did i ignore you? :(
Don't worry i'm still your colors friend if it was me sorry! :-:

Well, first of all, stop doing 'that' to yourself, because I know you know it won't help and might make things worse. Second, if your friend is cutting you off, then she's not worthy of your concern. I know you're close-ish, but it'll be like taking out a thorn--It'll totally hurt, but it's for the better. What you really need right now is comfort, which will be hard considering all the things that've gone awry. If you can't get the comfort you need irl, then look to us! That's what online friends are for, right? (That sounded sooo wrong, but you get what I mean xD)
And about your Mum, all I can say is to be there for her. The future is getting closer and closer, too, so technology will be able to help her someday! Heck, already I've heard of tech helping blind people see. Keep your spirits high, girl, and you'll be untouchable.

Good luck!

The both good and the bad news is that, for the most part, this is within your power to change. Good because you can take control of your life but bad because it's up to you. Your mum is dealing with this as best she can and you need to be there to support her too, which means you can't be down all the time because that will only bring her down too. You need to be her light, her support. So, first, do the easiest thing. Forgive your friend. No one is perfect and, being inside ourselves, we tend to think of ourselves first. Really, wouldn't the people who care about you be upset if they knew you hurt yourself (I'm referring to long sleeves)? But you don't do it to hurt them. That's a side effect. In the same way, she may be focused on trying to find her place or be popular with a different crowd or any number of things. So, let go of that hurt because, once you feel it, it's inside you because it's your feelings. So, forgiveness is really for your own emotional health.

Next is the harder part. You're going to have to forgive yourself. Yes, you've made mistakes or feel insecure or may even hate yourself sometimes. You've hurt yourself physically and emotionally, but no one is perfect. Every single person you meet is no more or less perfect than you. They are not better than you, but it's that you think they are or else you wouldn't feel insecure. So, ask yourself why you think you don't deserve their friendship and why you think they don't care. Because, if you do, you'll see they're all excuses. The truth is you do deserve their friendship and they do care. Do they care all the time? Do you care about them all the time or are there times you are just thinking of other things or yourself? Don't hold them or you to unrealistic standards. You are who you are for a purpose in this world. They are who they are for their own unique purpose. No one is perfect. These are truths you must accept to forgive yourself and let go of the hurt.

You can't control others any more than they can control you, but you can control yourself, including how you react. How? It's all about perspective. Stop and watch others. See them as unique individuals like you with their own problems. See beyond how they act to who they are inside. They're not scary. They're human beings, just like you. Learn to see that, forgive yourself and others, and you'll find your whole life will change. It may be hard at first, but you can do it. After all, it's your life. Only you can live it, so live it the best you can. That's all anyone can ask of themselves. *HUGS* Believe in yourself because you can do it. :3