(continued from description) "Because I am doing a lot, but this is the best grade to be at right now in my class. If you are at an A in my class at the beginning of the year, you should not be in that class. Math is just hard, no explanation needed. My parents think I should put all into my studies, but when I do, they just want more. It's really frustrating being told flat out that you aren't trying and try harder. After my homework, I need to do my chores. But if my back hurts, I can't do them without pain. I told my parents this so many times, but they don't seem to care about my health. I cry myself to sleep sometimes. :( Thanks,
-reshigal***"

INSTRUCTIONS: Comment below with advice for @reshigal***.

Maybe try to explain your situztion to your bro, your trust-worthy friends or school autorities (teachers, etc.). :]

I'm sorry for the delay in giving advice, but I have not been feeling well.

I don't think your family doesn't want you in their life. Ask yourself why they have such high expectations for you. The clues are in how they think you aren't trying if you don't get As. That means they expect that you can get those grades and they honestly don't see why you wouldn't be able to. This isn't about them demanding something of you, but their belief that you are capable of all these things. The same is true of chores. So, why do they think you're capable of all these things and yet you don't? There are several posibilities. One is that they have placed you on this pedistal because you're their child and they feel like they've been able to do these things and therefore you should too since you're related to them. In this case, you need to make them understand that you can't be them, but you need to be your own person and that everyone is different and has different things they are good at.

Tell them what you are good at and that, in the grand scheme of things, just as they don't remember when they were your age anything about school besides the relationships they had with others and their family, the same will be true for you in time. Speak calmly and never whine or raise your voice, because that will make them tune out. Speak to them as an adult would speak to an adult.

Another posibility is that your brother gets good grades and it seems to come easily to him. Therefore, they would assume it should come easy for you. Both my parents are great at math but I've always struggled with it, so that is simply not one of my skills. However, just as you do, I have other skills. Maybe your parents don't know what they are. Maybe they don't value them because they don't relate to them. For example, say you really enjoy art, but they don't like it. They wouldn't really be able to relate or have interest if you talk about it, so they'd feel it's less important.

However, all interests are important to the people who have them. I'm sure your parents have plenty of interests that their friends think are unimportant. For example, some people think politics is corrupt and pointless but others believe it is important and essential. And that's just one topic.

Another posibility is that they are trying to live vicariously through you. That means that they feel they didn't get good enough grades and that's why they ended up with a job they don't like and so they don't want you to make the same mistakes and instead want you to have a more sucessful career. To them, this may even seem nobel and good for you, but no one can live your life but you. You'll need to sit them down and ask them why they are pressuring you but not showing love. They may say that the pressure is them showing love, but let them know that the pressure creates tension and love can not be felt through tension.

They have made you tense and the tension prevents you from feeling their love, but you want to feel their love. If you don't feel comfortable saying this out loud or don't feel they'll listen, you can write it out because it's important they know that particular point. Tell them you love them and understand no one's perfect, not you or them, but anyone can change and you have hope they can learn to express their love through hope and encouragement, because the pressure is blinding any chance at living together in love and, without you believing they have your best interest at heart, you have no motivation to give your all. Their love will be your motivation and NOT their pressure and expectations.

While considering what you'll say or write, also try to remember that, as imperfect people, they won't always express themselves well or convey what they really feel for you, especially if they're tired or under stress themselves (which is another reason why you need to speak to them

quietly or in written form). Just because they don't SEEM to care doesn't mean they don't care. In time, through conversations, you can learn to communicate better with them in regards to how they express their feelings, but in the mean time, ask yourself what you expect from yourself. Do you think you can get better grades? Do you think talking to your teacher would help? A school authority or councilor? If you are certain you have given it your all, then be satisfied, no matter what your grade is. You can't live under someone else's expectations. They aren't you. You are you and you are responsible for your life and your choices. You have to figure out what you can and can't do. No one else can do that for you. Don't stress out over this. It's part of figuring out your life to see what you are good at and what is possible. Life is a journey, not a destination. Keep learning and growing. And be patient with your parents. It's a journey for them too. *HUGS*