(continued from description) "Anytime I walk off after the conversation they talk about me and say they don't like me 'cause I'm weird. I have lost many friends, for they have started to not like me and they think I'm annoying and strange. And, anytime I say something, they think it's irrelevant. They sorta tell me to leave. Nobody wants to listen to me, and I'm a talkitive person. Because of it, I talk to myself a lot, and that makes people think I'm more strange! The only people that don't think I'm weird is the Pastor, some older people at church, and my Dad. How do I get people to not think I'm annoying. It's just, somehow people don't like me! I have many mental breakdowns because of it and I want it to stop! Help please?

Frederic"

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Ah, getting along better around older adults because of how the people your age treat you. I know how that goes. I had an easier time understanding and getting along with adults than kids my own age for a lot of my childhood. There were a lot of times I had no friends my own age. But I realized I couldn't be "normal" because there's really no such thing and so what I'd really be doing is trying to act like someone I'm not. And who can keep that up? You are unique as you are and no one else is like you, but so is everyone. We're all different. If we were all the same, the world would be boring and slightly creapy. So, instead, I decided just to be comfortable being me. If people thought I was weird, fine. I'd laugh it off. It's very stress relieving to just accept yourself as you are. The thing is, I found that it wasn't actually being myself that was making people not want to be my friend. It was the awkwardness I gave off from nervousness.

You can't called them friends if they don't want to be with you in the first place. Maybe find someone that will accept you for who you are. If it dosen't work, you can always talk to your dad; he'll probably listen to what you want to say. c:

And don't worry: I can be really strange too (and talk to muself when I'm alone) and, eventually, I've found people who I can connect with. You will too someday. :]

Once I was comfortable being myself, that awkward nervousness went away. I hadn't even been aware I was giving it off, but once it was gone and I felt more relaxed and just went about my daily life and schoolwork, people started accepting and liking me more. What had been weird because of that awkward nervous energy I was giving off became just funny. It also helps to be nice to everyone, as that draws people to you. And a lot of people talk to themselves. As I say, "Sometimes you just want to have a conversation with someone who really understands you." :P It's not a sudden or easy process, but I think you could learn to be more comfortable and that will change the energy you give off that people pick up on subconsciously. In the mean time, use your experience feeling like an outcast to find other people who feel rejected by their peers. You can relate to them and that will help you become friends with them. They may not be "popular", but they need friends too. :3