(continued from description) "One was a post on stopping hate towards people based on who they are. And I always feel like they're right and that I'm just a horrible person. I already have depression/self loathing problems, and this doesn't help at all. I've looked up to them for such a long time, and they might hate me, and they'd probably be right to. It makes me feel like I'm a horrible person whenever we talk, but I know they don't mean to. This is making me scared to even talk on colors at this point. idk what I could even try to do about this. I feel like I'm just the scum of the Earth. There's more info on the painting in my gallery that just says 'UGH', by the way."

INSTRCTIONS: Comment below with advice for @DecapitationCarnival.

Everyone has different opinions and perspectives on things because we are all different and those differences are what defines us as individuals. Just because someone argues why their perspective is better doesn't make your perspective less valid. No one knows everything, so we all only see part of the puzzle of life. And, even if someone changes their mind about something, that doesn't make them a bad person for being wrong. No one is perfect and part of not knowing everything means being wrong. It just sounds like you're naturally more prone to blame yourself for things. Rather than realizing that everyone is equal and no one more perfect than anyone else, you assume you must be wrong and that somehow means something's wrong with you. Try to imagine others as part of yourself. They aren't perfect or all-knowing. They may even dislike something about themselves too. Most people do, though many don't talk about it. Don't be afraid to talk on Colors, especially with your friends.

Okay, slow down honey. You sound like you might just be taking things a bit to the extreme. This artist may just be nitpicking your arguements, but that's all it is- no matter the skill they possess, or how you look up to them, there is no reason to be upset at yourself because they are unagreeable. I wouldn't think they dislike you, just off of their banter. Just let it roll right off your shoulders- some people will nitpick, but never think you have to live up to their standards... After all, this is your life; the only standards you have to live up to is your own!

I totaly agree with above comments.
Don't be afraid to talk, and be yourself.

@Banana-pantiies: DecapitationCarnival actually originally just wanted private advice on this and even went through revisions of what to say before deciding on this. Having read the more detailed versions but not having time to reply, I can assure you that she wanted advice so badly that making it more public was the only way to get it. Since everyone is different and has a different perspective, getting a variety of advice is essential. No one knows everything, so we have fragments to give. That's one of the reasons people come here so often for advice that's not necessarily about bullying. She doesn't see you as a bully, but because she looks up to you, she thinks you must be right and, while you outwardly express your frustration, she inwardly expresses the hurt of feeling like she's never right. You both have mood swings. You inadvertantly hurt others without meaning to, but she hurts herself by blaming herself.

She has a lot of self-loathing feelings she's working through, so, while your approach to "correct" her may work on someone else, it would not have the desired effect on her. Your passion about what you believe could easily be seen as agression, especially since you believe anything that goes against your beliefs is factually inacurate. No one knows everything, not even you. Therefore, some of the things you believe are at least incomplete and at most false. I'm not saying you have to be less passionate, but I think you see why she didn't just go to you. Outward mood swings and inward mood swings are not compatable and would only result in her hurting herself more. People are intitled to their opinions, even if they're incomplete or wrong. We don't know everything. So don't feel personally affected by this. Other people believing differently doesn't undermine you or the information you're sharing. People will make up their own minds.

In fact, many people look for information that confirms what they already believe. So, you're not really correcting anyone to them. People who believe differently will see it as you inserting your opinion. People need to change their minds themselves by first opening them to the possibility of being wrong. Too often people think they have facts but everyone else has opinions. So, practice patience. In the end, it will serve you even better than what you currently know, because it will be how that knowledge grows in you and spreads in others.