We often treat others how we think they deserve to be treated. So, if they hurt us, it's hard for us to be compassionate back. But that works two ways. When you are mean to someone who is mean to you, that justifies them being mean back to you and the cycle continues. But if you're nice no matter how you are treated, that niceness makes their meanness unjustified, making them guilty and, in time, maybe even able to think about and change their behavior. So spread love to end hate. *HUGS*