Let's Help Blind Witch! by Bully Free Zone
"Hello, thank you for your time to look over this. I have a friend whose thirtysix and I am twenty. She's been acting...motherly recently. At first I thought it was her being friendly, but it's gone to the extreme. She scolded me for working as a bartender under the legal age. I do not drink, I work! Mixology is my passion. And then she picks on me at the bar I work at for being the 'baby' or 'young one'. She even told me 'Put that cigarette out.'" (continued in comments)
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22 Mar, 2015, 10:32 pm
(continued from description) "Why is she commanding me? I'm a grown adult and am tired of her acting this way..it's embarassing. Advice? Thank you."
INSTRUCTIONS: Comment below with advice for @Blind Witch.
22 Mar, 2015, 11:05 pm
Read "How to make friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Then apply what that book teaches you to your situtation.
22 Mar, 2015, 11:12 pm
I would suggest just asking her about it
23 Mar, 2015, 6:05 am
It may be that she feels some motherly instincts towards you, but those feelings make her feel old and so she resents feeling that way and therefore she expresses things more negatively. It's just like with any form of self esteme issue, it can be over compensated for. Tell her that you know she cares and avoid using terms like "motherly" just in case she does feel old (not that she is, but no one sees themselves as they are), but be firm. Tell her that you appreciate it, but unfortunately you have your own life to live and so does she. You can be friends, but friends don't insult each other. And, even if she never meant to do it, that's what she did. Basically, explain to her so she sees it as you do. More than likely she's been letting her own feelings do the talking. And be partient with her, as it may take a few reminders to keep her on track. Not everyone's a quick learner. In the mean time, remember she probably means well and don't hold it against her.