Not bullied; I just wanted to say that is a fantastic title-card lol. Bricks and the metal plate look awesome.

Thanks! ^_^

@sonic bro: As for the first one, to many people, anyone younger than them seems immature. It's a matter of perspective. Also, sometimes people see themselves in others and are reminded of how much they feel like they've changed from the way they were that you remind them of. Remember that what others think of you can't change who you are in reality. Everyone has an opinion, so let them have it. As for the second, I'm pretty sure it's just that there are people who are so anoyed with "begging" that they see it everywhere and just as.sume "oh another one!" before actually reading. It's like when you learn a new word and suddenly you hear it everywhere or when you hate a food and then you notice it when others don't. A part of their minds look for it and fullfills their expectations. Again, let them have their opinions and hopefully they'll lose that expectation over time. We all go through phases from time to time and none of us are perfect, so I always choose forgiveness. :3

You're welcome! ^_^ Thank you for being the first to use this chatroom for advice. :D

What do you mean?

There's a certain way "average black people" act? See, this is why I wish people could just give up stereotypes. We're all different. Not a single person is exactly like anyone else, but we act like people who look certain ways should act certain ways. We're individuals, not robots. I'm sorry you have to be going through this and I wish I could change things in the world, but for now you're just going to have to remind yourself of who you are and that those other people don't truly know you. They might even be having really rough days or even rough lives and they're taking it out on you, so try not to hate them. None of us are perfect. You're the only one who can live your life.

I always get teased. For being....For being me. I'm very sensitive so I cry easy....And people always take advantage of that....Always talk about me....Sometimes I think..."whats wrong with me?"

It may be considered a weakness by our world, but sensitivity shows you actually care and in a world with so little compassion, we can use all the sensitive people we can get. It's not easy, but it's necessary.

Btw, I've added this to your other comment to put in your painting. *HUGS* There are others who care like you. You're not alone!

^that was toward @Batmanlover555 :3

Raven: I know a lot of people became upset when Colors removed inactive accounts and that made people's follower counts go down, but friends are better than followers and here's why: Friends will comment back and forth with you on your art and their art and their words mean so much more to you because they're not strangers. I know making friends can be hard, but finding people with similar interests or even sometimes with similar drawing styles can be the start of relating to each other that leads to friendship. Art should be about expressing yourself and Colors should be about fun. If I were you, I'd ignore any negativity and continue to comment positively, especially well thought out comments that people will really like to hear, and you'll make lots of friends and Colors will be fun again.

Aww, thank you! ^_^

Rogue, I am so sorry about what happened! I have tried to help jelly bean many times in the past. I do not hate, or judge, everything you have said is true! He just went to far, I didn't tell him I hated him, I didn't judge him, I just spoke out how he made me feel. Course he deleted my comments, I see he has blocked me some how. And I feel really bad! I told him, they buried my Aunt today, along with how much I still hurt over her, Angelmae, Baby, Tony dog, and so on. Yes I wrote in all caps to him, saying (HOW DARE YOU CALL ME A ......WHINY BABY) Told him about you, and others on colors have helped me. Now I see he may quit, or whatever, & I feel bad! So sorry! I know what his pain is. Yes, I was a bit confused about my followers, but I care for all color people, and didn't know what happened. So sorry!
MEGA ANGEL BEAR HUGS!

@angelbear1: We all have a lot of things going on in our lives and it seems like too much of that is flowing over into Colors, but I'm hoping that having a place to talk will help people release their feelings in a more controlled way. I think people or a person has hurt the holy jelly bean and he feels justified to repeat what's been done to him, but we've all been hurt and that doesn't excuse hurting others. None of us are perfect though, so I always say to forgive first. People can change, but it's hard in this world we live in. *HUGS* Also, part of the new comment feature is that not only when you delete a comment can you report it but you can also block the user. They discuss this in Colors News, though I'm not sure if blocking would always be best, since then they could never appologize.

@Seekers of truth: There are many ways to release energy safely, from sports to exercise to just hitting a pillow while scr.eaming into it or tearing a paper. As for calming down, listening to calming music can really help. Also, going for a walk while listening to music can help. Sometimes angry outbursts can also be triggered biologically, so you might see how changing your diet affects you, if it helps, makes it worse, or has no change. You can start by trying more vegetables. If that helps, add plant based protein sources. These include nu.ts, beans, soy, peas, etc.

@Yarry: Are there certain times when your self confidence is higher or lower? It might be possible to identify things that raise or lower it that you're already doing without knowing. Consider actions, outside events and even what you eat as factors. Another approach is to practice open communication with a close friend who you know won't judge you so that you're more comfortable over time with expressing yourself and therefore also more comfortable with yourself. There are also skills you can learn that most people don't know and that could boost your confidence.

When you've opened up at your highschool, were you judged/rejected or do you think it's just a fear you have? If many people liked you before and some do now, then you might make friends easily by opening up to people. Many, maybe even most, people like other people who are funny and can lighten the mood. So, your goal seems like it should be learning to open up to people, maybe even one at a time. As your group of friends grows, you will develop a reputation as a likeable person.

Would you mind if I uploaded this as a painting to get other people's opinions on what you should do?

@Yarry: Your painting will be up later today. :3

@-Finland: Your parents might honestly just be worried about you. Taking you to church may be their way of trying to "help" by "bringing younback to God." They just see the world differently than you, so they may show love and concern in ways that seem strange to the way you see things. What sounds the most serious is that they would call you a name as a form of insult. Did they just do this once out of frustration or anger (we're all only human) or is it ongoing? If it's ongoing, you need to tell them that them insulting you is only pushing you further away from them and, if they keep it up, they may lose you. And, I know it will be difficult for you and them, but you need to have a talk. This world is always busy, busy, busy, but they need to make time for this. You'll need to try to understand each other. The bottom line is that they may be afraid of losing you, not in a physical sense but spiritual, and you need to reasure them that you love them and that you are happy as you are.

(cont) If they want you to change, try to understand why and try to help them understand why (as long as it's true) you are happier as you are. You'll both need to make some moves toward the other person's position, such as a compromise like them learning a bit about hom.ose.xuality and atheism and you going to church once in a while. It will take time and some trade-offs to learn to understand each other, but in the end you'll have a healthier and more open relationship with them. And, as that relationship grows, they will trust you with more independence and not pressure you as much.

Btw, @-Finland, if you feel you need different advice, you can explain your situation further on the "Start Here" painting and we'll make a painting for you so other people can chime in.

In middle school I used to get bullied a LOT for being different. I went to a very small school, with very few people. There were about 30 something kids in my entire grade! It all started in elementary school. I had this friend whom I was very close to, however she and I had little to nothing in common. We started to drift apart in middle school. She started to become the socialite queen bee, while I was on the quiet side. I thought nothing of my friend and I's drift apart, I just thought we would leave each other alone. A year I would meet two people who would change my life. Two new kids came to our school, one, a boy, the other a girl. I started to grow an intrest in this boy that would later develope into a huge crush. My X friend, let's call her Queeny, would not approve of this crush because he became popular while I was a "loser". She talked me into asking this boy out because she knew he would say no, and she was right, he rejected me. I was heartbroken, then Queeny said...

..."Why did you ask him out, that was really stupid!" All I could think was that I wanted to explode into billions of little peices. The next life changing person I met was, a girl that we're gonna call Usagi. Usagi and I shared many intrests, including, drawing and anime. Queeny didn't approve of her because she deviated from the "norm". Usagi threw a birthday party and invited all the girls of our grade. We were sharing secrets and Usagi shared that she was Bi. That gave Queeny even more ammo for insults and rumors. She started false rumors that Usagi and I were gay for each other and the narrow minded people in my grade dissaprove of being gay so Usagi and I became THE most hated, unpopular kids in the grade. The next year and a half was a living helI! Another new girl, let's call her Snooki bullied me even more so than Queeny. It got so bad that I attempted to end my life on several occasions. I would literaly cry myself to sleep most nights...

... In the 8th grade things began to change, I realized that I shouldn't care what others say of me as long as I am true to myself and the ones I care about. I learned to stand up to the bullies and stay strong, and it worked! I told the bullies that I don't care what they think, and they won't bring me down! I never really got bullied after that. Now in my first year of high school we got 30 more kids in our grade and I made lots more friends, and for once, I'm truly happy! :)

haha thanks! it helped stop some things which is reaaaallly great ouo

@coolcat11: After all you went through, to have the strength to stand up for yourself and turn things around is really inspiring and I think a lot of people who are going through similar things can learn from this. Basically, you told them you didn't care about what they thought and they stopped. Also, I really like how fitting each of the names you came up with were for the people. :3

Ugh, I know what it's like to not have your parents believe you until you literally come home blo.ody, but maybe a friend or teacher will believe you and help out. Someone out there will care, even if you haven't met them yet. As for being bi or pan, you don't need to label yourself. You like who you like and, as you know, those labels come with stereotypes attached. Here's a secret.... *whispers* Most people are at least a little attracted to their own gender.

@ProArtist: Try not to let what people say on here negatively affect you. Nothing they say can change reality in any way. Instead, focus on the positive comments and use the comment deleting/blocking feature if you feel it's necessary.

In school, if sitting for long period causes you physical pain, then you should let your teacher know so that seating accomidations can be made. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, maybe your parents can call your teacher instead. -RR

^I replied in your gallery. :3

Guys, if you are being bullied my best advice is to forgive them for what they said/did (even if they didn't apoligize) and move on. I know it's hard, I know by experience(I even raged before and almost threw a chair in 2nd grade...but I was 8ish). However, just blow away all negative feelings, and nothing can really bring you down. Trust me, it works.

^Thank you for sharing this advice! Positivity is the best medicine. :3

good advice dransnake :D

@Jakethecat: She might have called you that as a joke, but if she continues, you need to tell her you find it insulting. Don't insult back, as that can lead to a battle of insults back and forth. Remember, if someone you treat with respect can't treat you the same way back, on Colors you have the option to block them, but that should be a last resort, after you've tried to work things out first. Our society doesn't teach us how to be nice to each other, so try to be patient. We're all only human.

Hello, I've been vitctim of many rumors, just because I hang out with a guy(my ex). It's really annoying because everytime I hang with guys (they're friendlier to me), eveyone else has to spread rumors saying that I'm with that guy and it annoys me so much!!!! xC

^oh i hate when that happens, well, mymadvice to u is to just calmly tell them that u aren't dating, and then try not to hug them or anything that might show romance (only for a couple of days) and the rumors will gradually subside on their own

by "them" i mean the guys ur hanging out with, try to avoid hugging them for like 2-3 days and tell me how it works out (u dont have to stop hanging out with them of course)

Hey sonic bro, do you remember me? We've been through that whole jelly bean vs. happybrick escapade. I know you've been through, well a lot, and I heard you're a new christian, so am I. Look a lot is going on right now involving you, things I don't want to mention by name here. But one thing is, is that if you k!ll yourself, you don't go to heaven. God has a plan for you and He wants you to see it. Though christianity has no small amount of distaste by others, its a struggle you'll have to endure, just know you're not alone in it. So if you ever need advise on christianity, i'm one who will at least listen.

@sonic*bro: I've seen that you try to be his friend and yet he still lashes out. People try to help, but he ignores their words and lashes out. See, when you're made to feel terrible about yourself, you blame yourself and feel depressed and hurt. When he feels terrible about himself, he blames others and feels angry. The thing is, the emotions are really the same. When some people are sad, they hide away from everyone. Others may be mean to everyone. Try to understand that he doesn't mean what he says. He's not thinking it through deeply like revenge or something. It's just a reaction on his part, a way of lashing out, like the way a wild animal crowls when people approach. It might seem like it comes from agression, but it comes from fear and mistrust. Right now he has a lot of personal feelings to sort out, but he doesn't seem ready to do that or to be helped.

He's doing this to a lot of people. In fact, last I checked, your username was replaced with Angelbear, so who knows who he's onto now, and no one is going to see that and think YOU'RE bad. People can see through the insults. He doesn't actually make it that hard to see the truth because he'll let his pain show and even admit that what he's doing is wrong (he just says he doesn't care). I know you want to help him and that only makes his insults hurt more, but he has to be ready for help and now he's not so it's only a matter of time before he's used up his latest account.

Thank you very very much guys with your advice and support, it meant a lot and now I have no more bully problems and also your advice for those rumors, thank you sonic*bro, and remember that The holy jelly bean doesn't mean what he says and you're absolutely not what he said *hug for everyone*
Now I'm feeling kinda depressed but that's just because I'm tired, and I noticed that I'm more likely to be depressed and have anxiety issues in the winter, I guess it's because of the cold weather and the grey sky and that darkness (well, almost everything in the Montreal(yes, I live in Montreal :P) winter, my dark issues stop when I go to somewhere waaaaay more cold for vacations, because the place is so beautiful (it's still in Quebec tho) :3).
Thank you all guys <3
(I'm -_-Malicia-_- btw)

But, I think I still get hate at school but people are too childish, I don't care anymore :)

Uh I mean thank you super*star for your advice x)

hmm.... :T

This guy in class hit my face today. Need Help!

@sonic i know, i've seen, but i think u two shuld come to a compromise, u give him something he wants and he gives u something u want, u want him to leave him alone, but he wants u to dump trixie, obviously u dont want to do that because u love her

the thing u can do is give ur part by not letting his insults get to u and not block him or fight back (i know it's hard to do but it culd help u through this) and in return, he'll leave u alone because he's not getting the reaction he wants :3
u can try this, it may or may not work, but there's a good chance it will so it's worth a shot >uO

RR culd probably explain better, im not so good at explaining -3-

@Jack this person, is he/she a friend, foe or stranger?
whoever it is, he or she was probably angry about something and they needed to let out their anger, but u were the closes thing to them, so they unleashed it on u because there's no one else to

if they are a friend, u can try talking to them

if they are a foe, then they probably meant to hit u and u shuld avoid them and/or tell someone

if they are a complete stranger, then u shuld definitely tell someone cuz u can get a case on ur hands

@super star

Some guy at school just slapped me
2C00l4DIS

Hit him back.

just randomly like that? then i saw, take to a place where no one can see (so u dont go to jail) and smack hit back harder amd maybe throw a few kicks too >uO

If you hit back its considered self-defence, plus doing it in front of people humiliates him.

my friend (will be referred to as Cookie) gets bullied by this girl in English class (will be reffered to as Cheese) :c today, i was absent (because i was sick) and that's when Cheese decided to strike i guess, im not entirely sure what happened, but at 4 (when school's out) Cookie texted me and said that she sat in her usual seat, but Cheese wanted to sit there, to be next to her friends, so Cookie didnt move because she was there first, and she was near her friend too, but there was also another seat next to her that Cheese culdve sat at, but instead, Cheese decided to smack Cookie with her bookbag and then Cheese's friend (who will be referred to as Cream) pushed Cookie's books off of her desk and Cheese started throwing things at Cookie (pencils/paper balls/erasers etc)

Cookie said her clas.smates supported her, but the teacher didnt see, idk what happened afterwards (whether she told or not)

im sick for one day and my bff gets bullied, this is terrible! D:

Well obviously you cant help when you're not there, but its also not your fault because you weren't there. But, do to what I have heard, this has only happen once. If it happens again you got to be there to stick up for her. There isn't much else you can do.

i will try my best to be there for her *hugs* i will stick up for my friends at all costs......i just need to get over this fear that's preventing me to .-.

btw this isnt the first time that girl was mean to her, it just never got this extreme before

but when it happened before, i told her to back off, then she started going after me instead

when i go back tommorow, what shuld i do to "Cream" and "Cheese" to help "Cookie" out

thx KingExtreme, i dont feel so guilty anymore -w- i have bitter rage for that bully though (idk if that's good or bad :T)

(You can call me Hunter if you like) If you're cool with telling, whoever it is you tell stuff to at school you could do that. I personally think you shouldn't cause authorities at school don't tend to do anything about stuff like that. Maybe when she starts something you can push her and tell her to back off, plus if you don't like "telling on" people then a big scene being made will get you a question of why.

(Its a bit confusing here for me cause I would have told any male to hit the dude but since its a female problem, i'm not sure it applies the same way)

@super*star: Cream, Cheese, Cookie? Were you hungry when you named them? :P

You said that your friend's classmates took her side, so that's at least something. You can't always be there all the time, so that's too high of an expectation for yourself. Besides, this was the one day you missed and you were feeling terrible, so you need to make sure you rest and recoup before it gets to that point. Perfect attendence isn't worth it.

The best way you can help is not just by dealing with the bullies yourself, but also helping your friend deal with them herself. After all, if they think you're her protector, they might just wait until you're not around. How you deal with them depends on if you can reason with them or if they are just too far gone.

I'm online because I can't be in my 3ds in the morning

(Hunter? I have a friend with that name, now I know 2 :p) ur right, but it doesn't apply the same with girls, guys fight, girls argue and scold, but it's pretty much the same, so I can just girlify ur advice cuz it was good :D

RR, alright, if u say so

and lol yes, I was craving some cookies and cheesie snacks at the time (because I wasn't allowed to have any becuase of my throat) and cream goes with cheese, it also is the filling in Oreos :p

I've put my problem on the Start Here pic but I thought I might ask you something here anyway:
Dear Rogue Ranger/Bully Free Zone
How do I get sort out a physical bullier? It's not just physical, it's mental too, but how do I? I'm a little too shy to speak to an adult, and my friends ignore me now (see the Start Here pic). I want to stand up to the bullies, but I'm too scared. Plus, they've made me into a much shyer person than I was. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Choc Muffin
Rosie

@Choc Muffin: There are many ways to build courage, but they're different depending on the person. They can be everything from sports to practicing what you'd say when you're alone. What you might try is making friends with other shy people. They won't be as intimidating, but still each time you make a friend, the more confident you'll get. Since you feel like you can't confront the bullies or tell anyone, you need to work on the confidence to do at least one of those two things. If you have siblings, maybe you can practice conversations with them or, if not, in front of a mirror. Though, based on what I read in your other comments on "Start Here", it sounds like it's time to involve the police. Again, focus on building your confidence by talking to others. The sooner you can either stand up to them or get help, the better. You can't let them make you think you're too weak even to ask for help. You are stronger than you think, but if there's too many of them, you need help.

Thanks RR. You've really helped me, and my mum said to call the police next time it happened. She even bought me a mobile to do that! I'm much happier now I know what to do, but I'm still not completely. Thank you very, very much though!

@ProArtist hmm..... idk why these ppl dont appreciate ur art........i think u shuld ignore them, ur art's good :T

@--Pro*Artist--: Artists are often unappreciated. In fact, if you tell someone I want to grow up to be an artist, they'll say, "Yeah, that's great, but what will you actually do for a living?" I'm afraid it's something we all have to get used to. In the end, we have to be true to ourselves, not others.

@Pink-E$pion: It's so easy for some people to find one thing about someone and make that everything they are. In your case, they take your occasional anger over their comments to be all you are, an angry person. They don't see any more than that because they're not really looking. And I completely understand feeling really defensive over insults to a family member. The question is how to stop them from seeing you this way. You could try practicing acting like you don't really care or like their words and actions don't strongly affect you. It sounds like you've been hiding your pain from them, so you have experience with that. It would just be hiding your anger. It would be really hard for them to keep thinking you could give someone a black eye if you never even yell. You can't control them or make them treat you how you deserve to be treated. You can only control yourself, so the key is to change them by controling part of your behavior. Maybe then they'll see your sensitive side.

Me and two other friends (1 isn't really a friend..) have been getting into alot of arguments lately and our friendships are on and off. Nice friend and Mean friend fight more often but they're used to it. For me I hate getting into fights and I need help trying to solve these problems. Mean friend's friend has been rude lately because of my apperance. I am a bit chubby but I don't understand why she needs to bully me about it. Shd gets all her friends (including Mean friend) to go against me and bully me usually after school and walking home. Mean friend's friend has also been using physical about aswell as verbal. Physical as in stomping on my hands when me and Nice friend draw on the road with chalk and etc. Verbal as in calling me a whale and that my family is terrible and that my 4 yr old sister is a devil and etc. Thing is, Nice friend doesn't get picked on because she is skinnier and fitter than me. I need help. Please help me to stop these bullies.

physical abuse*

@Tohru: Even if you were "skiny and fit" like you describe your friend, they could still come up with other things to pick on you over. People are bullied for all different reasons, so you can never please them. So, you need to accept yourself for who you are and empower yourself. For some people this means learning not to care what others think. For others, this can mean standing up for themselves. But really those two are con.nected. See, as you learn to accept yourself and find the courage and strength within, you not only are less affected by what others think, but you can stand up to them because seeing yourself as strong empowers you. Some people achieve this kind of self empowerment by just changing how they see others and themselves, like trying to understand why people bully. Some achieve it by building physical strength, like training faster reflexes and better awareness of surroundings to sense others. Others try acting carefree and joking, making them less a target.

Thanks for the advice, Rouge Ranger. I'll try that and give you a response.

I know it's not about bullying but I feel like I'm totally useless on here and it hurts me. And since I'm too shy to go up to people and say hi and stuff, I don't feel like it's gonna change. :c

@MariDG19: Well it's good that you know you'll have at least one friend there. :D And I've found that people won't bully you as much if you have a friendly carefree attitude and just laugh off anything someone says. Also, making friends with people who feel shy or insecure will help them and also give you a group of friends that will make it harder for others to single you out for bullying.

@.:AliceRedFox:.: If you look for other shy people, they will be less intimidating and easier to approach. Also, there are quiet but friendly people who are easy to spot. You can also practice building your confidence by acting out conversations with yourself.

i'm deciding weather i should just chat here or request an advice picture because i need help asap...

@Bluwing: Maybe here because I'm behind by several days on the paintings.

ok...
well at school people are spreading rumors about me.
bad ones.
and i don't know who's behind them...
yet i'm afraid to tell a teacher because i feel like it'll get worse...
...i posted a picture on my profile with a bit more info, if anyone has advice for me, put it there.

please help me! i'm bullied every day because according to my exfriend A, i'm 'gay'. I dont date girls! I might be a bit tomboyish, but that doesnt mean im gay! In art class, they (bullies) rip my art, the only thing that soothes me, they steal my lunch, I WANT TO MOVE TO COLORADO! Ugh, please help me i got out of a mental hospital last week.

^ Tell. Teachers/Parents always help

i tried a while ago, nobody listened enough, i told my parents, they dont know what to do

@OshawottGirl: I know what it's like to have your art ripped up and your lunch stollen and to know that the teachers are just waiting to retire and too tired of teaching to care. I tried many things, from telling others to trying to ignore it, but what worked was two things: Changing schools, and acting like I didn't care. But not just like I didn't mind, but like I didn't take it seriously. The more serious I took things, the more people did things, but the less serious I took it, the less they did. It was a matter of adopting an easygoing attitude that calmed people and made them too comfortable to act up. How I did this was by trying to understand why they did what they did. The more I saw bullies as just people who were expressing their emotions, the less I feared them. And, as I said, moving helped too.

^ Gravity Falls Nerd

xD i am too

@McWhiteRose: I hope the tera.pist helps too, but there's someone else who can help her too: You. You said you're the only one who feels her pain and based on everything you know about her and do, she obviously trusts you. Use that trust to reach out to her and let her know that self harm is not going to make anything better, only worse. There are more constructive (rather than destructive) ways to deal with pain. One is drawing or writing out her feelings and then drawing or writing out her goals and how she'd like to feel. Work with her on how to make her goals (short term ones like going a week without cutting) become real and gradually work up to higher goals. See, the feeling of acomplishment in itself can be inspiring. She needs someone and, aside from the thera.pist, that's you.

I lived in the us one year and I'm moving back there for 5 years. I met a girl who will be referred to as Cookie, and 5 mean friends. Cookie would always tease my friend Brownie and would steal or fight her for her lunch. She always does that to everyone. When Brownie refuses, or I refuse, we would get into a fight (verbal) which would last days and if I looked anywhere near her, or her friends, she would scream thing like this : "GIRL, DONT LOOK AT ME, I AINT DO NOTIN TO YOU OR EVEN LOOK AT YOU, SO DONT LOOK AT ME WITH THOSE STANK A$$ EYES, BETCH!" And some people are neutral with her, like my other friend Chocolate. Chocolate would always side with Cookie and I would get ganged up on. Things they call me are : fat horse, idiot, ugly, japanese sh!t, etc. And for extra info, they ARE ghetto.

@animegurl598: I know you feel like they're your friends and maybe they're nice sometimes, but it honestly sounds to me like it might be time to find new friends. Maybe they'll come around after you've avoided them for a while. There is that old expression, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." But in the mean time it's just too much stress and drama dealing with Cookie and anyone who would side with her or call you those names. There are a lot of other people out there. The thing is, the ones who would be great friends don't always stand out in a crowd. But, look at how much Cookie stands out. So, look for the quiet ones that stay back by themselves or in the shaddows. They might want friends but be too intimidated to make them. The goal is to make friends who appreciate you for who you are. Surrounding yourself with people who don't like you will make you not like yourself but surrounding yourself with people who like you will make you like yourself. :3

@$EPTER 49: A painting has been made with your advice. :3

@Toon-O-Clock: Thank you! :3

@ShinyDoodles: What do you need advice on?

@ShinyDoodles: Hmmm...Well, if your brother's friends bully you because your brother has said you're mean to him, then you can change their thoughts on you by proving them wrong and acting friendly and easygoing. I realize at first this will be an act, but with time you will start to feel it more. See, if they think you're some bad person who deserves to be bullied, being a carefree person will show that's not the case and then they may reduce their bullying. Try remembering that they're just people who don't really know how to express their feelings, so forgive their actions. If you take them too seriously, it empowers them and hurts you. But if you act like you don't care and are in a good mood, that will make you less of a target. You'll also make more friends because people like to be around positive people. Remembering that their bullying will eventually go away by being positive will also help you be positive. Just like bad moods spread, so do good ones.

If someone teases you about something, make a joke of it, even if it means making fun of yourself. By doing that, you're taking the taunt from them so it's no longer theirs. You have the power here and it's all about shaping how they act by how you show your emotions.

You're welcome and good luck this year!

umm... is any1 by chance here

@paige im here, i can give u advice if u need it :3

Hi Paige! It's nice to see someone's actually using this painting. Most people don't for some reason, despite me being so far behind in making the paintings... Anyway! I'd like to see what I can do to help. First off, I know you said you talked to your parents and teachers, but with everything, including se.xual a.ssault, someone should listen. But, even if not, there are things you can do to help yourself (not that you should have to do it alone, but still...). Though, I have a question: What do you do exactly when you say you're made to look like a bully for taking a stand? That might help me see why they react the way they do. How much of it do you think is related to being an athiest? If it would make you safer, you can not mention that to anyone. I've read several surveys of American and they always say they'd be less trusting of an athiest than anyone else (even a mur.derer). I'm not saying lie, but I'm just thinking of ways to be safer.

Also, I've found for myself that keeping a positive attitude helps a lot. When you look down and seem depressed or unfriendly, people sense those emotions from you and can be hostile back. But if you are friendly and helpful, even if someone beats you up, others will feel sorry for you and it will also make it easier to make friends because people like being around positive people. It may be hard at first, but friends will help shield you from some of the danger. And, believe me, I know how you feel about school.

well all i do is say something back that will make them standown or even make a joke out of it

plus the people who say i am a bully bully me themselves

and i think maybe 40-36 percent is related to being atheist

ummm... hello

I don't see how they think you're a bully. Could you give a specific example, like what exactly they said and you did? Maybe they feel defensive or joking makes them think you don't take something serious that they do?

i honestly dont know

There may be clues as to why people behave certain ways that you will notice, but in the mean time finding people with similar unterests to you to befriend is a good start. You might also consider staying after class and befriending a teacher that you sense you can trust. They may be able to help as well. And, if your parents are a problem, maybe there is another relative or a friend's parent who can help.

@Feather Arrows: There are several reasons why she might be bullying you. Sometimes it's hard for us to see ourselves how others see us, so think about who else she bullies and what they have in common with each other. Those things they have in common may be something you also have. For example, she might look for people who are weaker than her, so you would focus on strength. She might like seeing others suffer, so you would try not to show that she hurts you. She might get a power trip from others fearing her, so don't act afraid. Now think about who she doesn't bother and what they have in common. Often simply acting like the bully isn't really bothering you can make bullying you less fun, because many bullies find the attention and pain "fun". If you see that she's only going after people who are alone, try to be among friends. Also, try making friends with other people she bullies so that they are not bullied either. There is a pattern to her bullying. Find it and end it.

@Spooky_Candy_Cat: You've tried getting help from people who run the actual school the bully is at, but it doesn't sound like that worked. It may be the way you come across to them. When someone's in a hurry or busy, they only get a sense of what you say, not many of the words, but your tone, the WAY you say those words. Even though you may just sound desperate, they may hear whining. You might be able to work on that by trying to be calm and serious and present a list of events in writing, but for now let's also focus on what you can do yourself. I noticed that you said she focuses on bullying you and not others. If we can figure out why she targets you and then change that, the bullying may stop. So, she said she wanted to make you "pay". Can you think of anything she'd want revenge for? It doesn't have to be something mean you did to her, just something that made her feel bad. And people don't have to try to make someone feel bad.

Sometimes we say mean things without meaning to, but sometimes people feel bad because of something about us. For example, if someone were way better at art then you, then every time you saw their art, you might feel bad. That is one possibility for her focusing on your art. There are many others too, but I don't know enough to know what else she might see. Try seeing yourself through her eyes and think why she might feel bad and lash out at you. There are always clues. Maybe she bullies someone else too, but you missed it and you have something in common with that other person that will be a clue. Also, try making more friends, especially with people who don't have many friends. They're easier to talk to because they're not as expressive or popular and they can use friends and also you will have more of a wall between you and her.

@Snazy_Wolf: The best way to change their minds about you is by continuing to show them they're wrong. Sometimes people get ideas about others in their head based on appearance, like that someone who is short is less capable that someone who is tall or someone who dresses a certain way must be a certain type of person, and it can be hard to get those ideas out of their head, so try to be patient with them. They're only human and as humans we can judge others way too much. But, after a while, they can't keep being surprised. Eventually they have to accept that the judgements they made were biased and wrong. And, in the mean time, there are plenty of other people out there who need friends, often ones too shy to make their own, so you can make new friends while still patiently waiting for your current friends to come around. Just don't think too harsh of things about those people. No one's perfect.

I don't know why i'm doing this, but almost everywhere I go I'm teased. On the bus, at recess, heck, even in class. When I tell a teacher, It gets worse. I just can't deal with it. Usually I can cry myself to sleep.

Even my friends talk about me. I just don't know anymore...

I try to ignore it and I just burst into tears on the bus. Few people care about me except my parents.

People will find anything to tease someone over. It could be anything. Sometimes it's even being too nice. The key is to accept yourself as you are, even if others don't. One of the best ways to stop teasing is to act easygoing, like it doesn't bother you and that you have a sense of humor about life. People who show pain or who are too serious make easier targets because the bullies get satisfaction by how someone reacts. For example, if they can make you show pain or sadness, they've hurt you and that gives them a sense of power over you. However, if you seem like nothing they do phases you, they don't have the same level of power over you. So, the key is not to change yourself (they'll just come up with something else to tease you over), but to be comfortable and confident and show that around them. The first step is how you see others and yourself. Pay attention to how people treat each other.

You'll notice that some people tease even their friends and some people are nice even to bullies. Also, being around people who tease others a lot can lead a person to feeling more negative and even tease others themselves. Negativity spreads the more you're around it. And, for some, teasing others is a way to redirect negative feelings they have about themselves or their own life. Seeing how different people interact and treat others will help you understand and accept that how people treat you says more about THEM then it does about you. After all, it's THEM doing the teasing. So, if they tease you, don't automatically fall in the trap of looking for what they see in you that they don't like because you'll go crazy trying to find something that's probably not even there. What they tease you about is an excuse for them to tease you. Once you see that people are all responsible for their own actions, you'll see that teasing is their fault and not yours and it will be easier not to

take their words so spersonally. After all, they don't necessarily even know you personally. Accept yourself for who you are and see the teasing as outside, like if they were doing anything else mean, like kicking an animal. What they do is wrong, but you have the power over how you react to their wrongs. It's your life and you don't have to feel like crying when people hurt you because it's not about you, but those people. They might even be hurting themselves, maybe even mistreated at home, and they're taking it out on you. At least you have your family who loves you. Not everyone has that. So, forgive them. Sure, they may not deserve forgiveness, but no one's perfect. Everyone hurts someone, even if they regret it later. But, more importantly, forgiving them will release any anger or pain you have toward them for what they've done. Carrying that weight is part of what makes you cry, because the hurt you feel ties into the way you feel their con.nection to you. If you forgive them,

you release that weight and can move on with your life. Over time, as you release the pain from inside and out, you'll regain your confidence and you'll find you feel more easygoing when people tease you. This will in turn make them tease you less. But don't stop here. You're not the only one teased. There are others teased even by the exact same people who tease you. Make it your mission to befriend them and to help them, to give them the support you didn't have. And, as you help others, you will feel even better about yourself. Focus on that and not on what others say that is just a sign of the own negativity in their lives. Make life positive for yourself and for others and maybe it will spread the way the negativity obviously has at your school already. I know it's hard, but I feel confident you have the power to make it better. *HUGS*

If anything was unclear (my wifi kept cutting out, so I had to retype things) or if you feel like I didn't understand something important, please let me know and I can modify my advice. Or, if you want a different opinion, let me know and I can put your comments in a painting here on BFZ (Rogue Ranger is my main account).

So...she responds to your negative feelings toward ducks and tries to change your mind. She wants to add you and others on Facebook. She calls people up often (until threatened). She is overly expressive yet you rarely see her with friends. Do you see a pattern here? She wants to make friends. Before you point out that she's going about that wrong, keep in mind that it's not always easy to know how to make friends, especially if you are more impulsive. She wasn't trying to be mean by saying that ducks are not evil. After all, you can't judge a species by the acts of a few. Maybe, besides cats, she really likes all animals. That's not that uncommon. Some people are more outwardly expressive and have a difficult time restraining themselves. For some people, learning self control takes longer than others. When you were a kid, you grabbed at things and did things on impulse more than you do now, right?

Even though you were less than kind to her, she still wanted to add you on Facebook. This puzzled you, but it makes sense when you think about the rest of her personality. She is not as concerned how other people see her. She just wants to be friends with everyone, to chat, share things, etc. It's very difficult to step outside yourself and see the way others see you because we're all so used to seeing things from our own perspective. The only way for her to really change is for her to get a glimpse of how she is seen by others. That's not some pointless name calling or telling her she stinks. It means someone has to get past her annoying quirks long enough to have a conversation about how people see her and why she's seen those ways based on specific behaviors listed in examples like you listed above. It may be blunt and even harsh, but if you want her to change she needs to know the truth in order to think of it when she does act on impulse. Either that or just let her be herself.

Aww, you're welcome! I certainly hope it's been helpful. :3 The retyping coments can sometimes take work though. XP

Mines on the cat one!

Don't worry, I saw it and just uploaded it now. :3

I think it's just part of self esteme that made you think the follow was a joke. If people follow you, it's because something you draw they like. It's not always that they like everything, since everyone has different tastes and obviously they won't always be on Colors to see everything you upload because they may have a life outside Colors, but while they were on, they followed you. It's much easier on Colors. For example, in real life, I'd never have the courage to make something like this if it meant real interaction with all these people, but you can be unsocial in real life and not seem that way at all online.

Aww, you're welcome and thanks for using BFZ as an example! ^_^

Maybe they feel like you're interrupting them? People can become frustrated if they feel like they're talking to someone and someone else interrupts. Another possibility is they feel ganged up on, like it's suddenly your friend and you against them. I know it hurts to be yelled at, but how does your friend feel? If they want your help, that matters more than if the person attacking them doesn't want you involved. Maybe talk it over with your friend too, if you haven't already.

Hello this is my first time using this. I tried before but my internet failed while I was computer commenting. So let me get to what happened. A few weeks ago me and my best friend had a fight. I told guidance about it and they got it sorted out but she ignored me even though the counceler said we should be aqiantences(sorry for spell fail) and she glaired at me constantly. Last week she told one of my friends to tell me that next time I try to talk to her she won't hesitate to throw something at me. At lunch, which in two periods after where it happened, I was telling one of my other friends about the thre.at and the person who did that made am excuse and it was "I did it because of my health" What should I do about. I can't even talk to some of my other friends at school because she'll just go over there and turn the convo to a Homestuck thing. I just want to know what to do so if you can help please do.

I completely understand about internet con.nection failures. When I was trying to access BFZ, I lost wifi the first few times and Nintendo's server was down after that.

You describe this person as your "best friend", so it must have been a pretty serious fight for her to still be this mad at you. The thing is, your other friends really can't help. This is between you and your best friend. You're going to need to win her friendship back, which means an appology, but not in person or she may throw something at you. Write her a note and slip it in her locker or email her if she hasn't blocked you. Don't mention anything she did wrong or her threat against you, but just appologize for the whole thing and make sure it sounds heartfelt. If she still cares about you as a friend anywhere deep in her heart, she will forgive you. You can also give her a gift, since, as her friend, you should know what she likes.

This may sound like a lot, but it has the potential to cool her anger and restore your friendship. Think about what you would want her to do for you if you were that angry with her and do that. If she really is your best friend, she'll be worth it.

Btw, I saw your other comments and I'll make a painting for this so that you can get different advice too just as soon as I get a chance. I'm behind on BFZ and don't have any help with it anymore, so I hope you understand. Hang in there! *HUGS*

Hello,
I´m writing because my friend is bullyed by nearly the whole school. They call him stupid and say he stinks, they steal his things, they say bad things about him and some of them hurt him. No one ever wants to work woth him in a group and it makes him really sad. They are doing this now for 3 years and the teachers don´t do anything and he says that I shouldn´t go to them because in the past that always made it more terrible. And I can understand him at this because I was also bullyed once. We are really good friends and talk about everything. I´ve tried to talk to my class and tried to stop them from hurting him, but they never listen to me and he is my only friend at school.
I can understand that its not always easy with him, because he has problems with understanding social situations or acts strange, but they don´t have to like him, they only should stop bullying him.

@Atiaca: Wow, people can be so cruel... That's a hard one, but I feel like other people probably want to be his friend but are afraid to be made fun of for it. The thing is, they probably already are made fun of for other things. You could make it your mission to search the shadows for other people who are bullied and befriend them. It may take time, but if more people are his friend, it will be easier for even more people to be his friend. It's a cycle that just needs to get started, like pushing a snowball. You can also try befriending people who get along with everyone or compassionate people and explain things in a way that makes them care enough to make a stand. Ask yourself why you're his friend and use those reasons to influence others. I really think that it's not everyone in the school and even some of those who do are just going along with the bullying because they're afraid of being seen as weak and sympathy and compassion are frowned on in our society.

Also, I'll try to make a painting for this tomorrow so you can get other advice too.

@JumpMan: I commented on a couple paintings in your gallery with some advice.

I know I keep falling behind because of life. In fact, I rarely have time to actually give advice after I've made and uploaded a painting. If you're any good with advice, that's certainly a big way to help. I feel like I don't check this chatroom nearly enough and, as I said, I often don't have time to comment on the paintings I upload. I think making the paintings would be harder, since I have to find the user color, do a sketch of whatever's their gallery's main pic and recopy word for word what they wrote. I do this by printing out their picture and comments so I have them in front of me. If you're up for a challenge, we could discuss that, though I may need to get to know you better since I'd have to give you the account pas.sword. Btw, we can talk more on my main account. :3

Btw I am giving advice :)
Ok advice: Some people say that you sould ignore the bully, forget, about it, push it out of your mind... but that is impossible when everyday you are bombarded by dooshes making your life as misrable as possible. In elementry school nearly all the boys had this thing called the Amber-touch (in lamest terms cooties) and this really bugged me. Boys looked up my skirts and called me names too I pretended to enjoy it becauso I hated it when the monitors got involved. In Middle School someone went to the extreme of posting a youtube video about my friend and me and labeled it "the most nerdiest girls" and this upset me alot (I broke down in ELA). In 6th grade 2 girls would giggle and laugh every time they looked at me and this made me really upset. Currently in 8th grade boys keep on "asking me out" as an evil joke and some girls try and get me to do bad things while they "secretly" video tape me. (cont on next comment)

To make matters worse my mom went through 3 back surgeries that were completly usless because bad doctors got involved My mom couldn't work so my dad slept on average 10hrs a week and often to "make up" for his sleep loss get drunk and yell and curse, I often found myself in a fetal position with my favorite bunny after he started getting violent Most of the time I would rather live at school than home I cried, alot and I got really depressed, sometimes while putting away the dishes I considered cutting myself or putting the knife away. Suicidial thoughts were common my life seemed to have lost a meaning nothing was fun Oneday I tried a video game, it was fun :) This gave me a new look at life Now I am learning piano, play viola and some guitar, love colors and any type of art My life gained some purpose for once. What I can tell you is YOU CANT IGNORE BULLIES! Times will get better and try and focus on what you loved not letting outside opinions affect you. Thx for reading

Man i wrote alot :0

Wow, thank you for writing your story and what you've learned from it. Ignoring something may work for some small things, but not big things, as I think you've pointed out. So, the real path to overcoming comes from finding something you love to do or interests you. This might also change your attitude and make you more positive. Has it reduced or changed the bullying or just helped to give you something to focus on besides the negativity? It's always possible that the bullies have things going on at home too and are acting out. No one has a perfect life. But maybe all our lives can be better if we discover things that inspire us instead of bring us down. :3

Uh hey, i, recently told some people about how i realised im transgender and they started laughing and telling me, pffft no your a boy! you were born a boy so you have to be a boy! and i, in my head am a girl and i dont see why its such a big deal that i want to identify as a girl? my gf supports me but idk how to tell my parents that im transgender im just freaking out, please help thank you

There are actually several videos as well as websites that explain what transgendered means. You might consider printing information out or having it ready on your phone when you do tell you parents in case they don't understand. I think understanding may be the hardest part because, if they love you, they will want you to be happy. Also, as you know, society puts a lot of pressure on gender stereotypes and norms. Being transgender shouldn't matter, but most people are taught gender is the most identifying and dividing factor in life. So, be patient with them. It may be something they've never even thought of. It may take time, but just say you feel like a girl and not a boy, but make it clear that you don't think it's a big deal, so they shouldn't either. Their biggest worry may be that you hate your body and may hurt yourself, so make it clear you wouldn't harm yourself like many other people do. Ease their fears and you'll ease your own.

I don't expect anyone to care, but here is why I hate my self. Ever since I was little I was constantly bullied. My mom yells at me when a cry, and never does anything when my brothers or sister hit me. My sister constantly threatens to ki.ll me and my mom never put a stop to it. Its not just at home. A girl who shall be unraveled hates my best friend. But, now she acts all nice and pretends she didn't say I hate you to my best friend. I just fee like I should end it all, but I'm too scared to go to heaven where my dad is. I hope you can help.

Even parents are still people, meaning they're not perfect. Your mom might feel uncomfortable when you cry because it triggers a part of the brain associated with protective instincts, so if she's not naturally comfortable showing affection because she never grew up with it or if she's tired and overworked, triggering that part of the brain can be annoying to her. But family is not who you're biologically related to. It's not DNA or blood, but love. It's like the expression that home is where the heart is. You can turn to your friends for comfort and understanding, but I'd like you to also consider turning to a counselor at school. As an adult, they can find solutions that are not available to you. There are also websites and phone numbers with trained counselors who can get you help. Your school would also have this info if you can't find it online. Your friend's parents may also be able to help. If nothing else, they can at least offer you a place to stay and give your mom "peace".

I'm not really sure that it counts but I need to get this off my chest... at school im being perved and se.xually harrassed. What's even worse is that the group of boys in my class that are doing it are in my class, and the teacher doesn't do anything about it. Some people also think that our japanese picture is a perv. My sister is constantly doing stuff to purposefully hurt or annoy me and my other sister is in reception so she's still working on her behavior a lot...
not to mention I got my braces on and I still have my expander plate in so it feels like something is stab.bing the inside of my mouth my Mum and Dad (actually most people) don't listen or care about my opinions or ideas, it makes me feel like I don't belong... I feel like I'm in a dark place... and the other day, I attmpted to k.ill myself but something stoped me, can you help?

@Lillyflowerr11: I've been noticing this a lot on BFZ, as if boys just don't know how to treat girls with respect, but I promise you not all males are like this. It's your teacher's (or principal's) job to do something about them, but understand that they are often overworked and spend a lot of time dealing with "bad" students and this can bring them down and make them care less. I've seen once energetic and optimistic teachers become cold and jaded. It's a hard job. But the key to getting adults to listen is to speak quietly and calmly. This makes them have to pause and try to listen. Speaking loudly or even at a normal volume may seem like a way to get someone to hear over all the distractions, but it makes them defensive and listen less, almost as if they're being yelled at, but quietmess makes them stop and strain their hearing. Also, adults respect calmness because they deal with too many emotions and they can be exhausting. This may also help with your parents.

I think what stopped you from going through with your plans may be that you don't want to end things. You may even have hope things will get better. And, as I've seen, things do eventually get better. A lot of how you feel is more affected by how you feel about yourself than about how others treat you. If you like yourself, it doesn't really matter what others think. You've seen those people before. They dress and act how they want and don't care if they're made fun of because they like themselves. Then there are people who try to fit in and every word hurts them because they don't like themselves. It's a matter of realizing it's your life to live. No one else can live it for you, so you might as well have the confidence to be yourself. People with confidence are also better able to get people to listen too. No one is perfect, so you are no better or worse than anyone else. Just be you. No one else can.

omg TEACHER not PICTURE!! sorry, that was a MAJOR error in my first comment and thanks @RogueRanger! ^U^

Oh! That actually makes a lot more sense. I thought your school had Japanese day where girls were made to dress as Japanese schoolgirls or something. As for Teachers, you'd need to go to the principal or your parents, although it's certainly possible the teacher doesn't know and you can tell him/her. No one knows everything. :3 And you're welcome!

Having a really tough time... I came out as trans to my parents and as they are very rough and Christians (Hypocritical ones if I may add) don't support me. I just want to be happy, but apparently that's just too much to ask for. I can't even get a simple haircut. This is too much for me to handle, and I don't know what to do.

@DireRei: There are a lot of parents (and people in general) that are not very understanding on this issue, but it doesn't mean your parents don't love you. They may simply not fully understand. In that case, you can show them articles online. Great resources are people's personal stories of what they went through and you can usually find that information with a quick search, including words like: my Christian parents don't accept I'm trans. Or, they may not want to understand because they feel they know what's best for you. It's very difficult for parents to realize their children do not belong to them but are real people. They may be afraid you will be ridiculed or hurt by others or that you'll regret it and change your mind later and that they are protecting you from this. In this case, you'd need to be more patient with them because this is the hardest for them to change from. Patience is not waiting, but in your tone, the way you say how you feel and what makes you happy.

If you sound desperate, defensive or whine, even if it's provoked by them, they are less inclined to empathise than if you seem calm and patient. People naturally get defensive when they are confronted with negativity, so it will be hard to supress, but it will help them listen, so try. Also, keep in mind that gender is not about appearance but how you feel inside. Some women have short hair and some men have long hair, but that doesn't change the gender they identify as. We have a lot of strict rules in our culture about what it is to be one gender over another, but everyone is different and needs to follow their own path. And, finally, transgender awareness is fairly recent but already spread a lot, so the future will likely be a much safer and more underdtanding place. If your parents are afraid for your future, that may reassure them. No matter what, remember that everyone is unique and has their own views.

You may not be able to change your parents, but that means they can't change yours either. Gender is in the mind and you have control over that. No matter how you look on the outside, you are yourself inside and, in time, they may come around as society does or you will be able to leave. But never hate them for simply having different beliefs and not understanding things from your perspective and don't hate your body. It's a vessel. Let who you are inside shine tnrough. We really aren't defined by our genders at all. We're all just people. Someday that'll be all that matters. Stay strong and patiently talk with your parents until then.

@FredericJM: I'll get to it tomorrow. Sorry for the delay but I'm very busy right now.

Uhm... Could we talk..? If you're not busy that is.

@Garson: What did you need to talk about? :3

Btw, I'll be switching to my main account, @Rogue Ranger.

Uhm...
I'm really sorry in advance if I'm nervous. I'm never really ask people for help with this kind of thing.

I've been dealing with someone who's been spreading lies and trying to turn people against me on here recently...

I don't want people to hate the guy I just want him to stop... He's been hurting me and a close friend of mine on here.

Ah, okay.

Pfff... *I'm not use to asking people for help with this kind of stuff.

Like I said... I'm really sorry if I'm nervous..

@Garson: This actually sounds very similar to a painting I just uploaded for @FredericJM. He is also dealing with feeling like people are being turned against him.

Don't worry about it. :3 It's actually hard to tell when people are nervous through writing.

I think that the best way to stop the lies is actually not through constantly fighting against the lies and defending yourself, but proving them wrong. For example, say people said you were mean. Arguing that you're not mean and telling people you're not may not convince them, but being nice no matter how you are treated (even being nice when someone is mean to you) will prove them wrong. Sure, some people only believe their friends, but many people make up their own minds and think for themselves.

Uhm... T-to be honest... t-... that's him...

There's actually a psychological reason behind this. See, when people are attacked, either physically or verbally, they become either defensive or offensive. No matter if someone says something true or false about you, your natural reaction if it hurts you will be to defend yourself or attack back. So, being defensive doesn't prove something true or false. You could literally argue for days and not convince as many people as if you let the natural desire to defend yourself go and simply prove them wrong through your words or actions. You can'tmake people think something they don't want to think, so being nice makes them want to change their thinking themselves.

My friend has been getting attacked a lot worse than me as well and she's a bit more-... er. Agressive, we'll say.
But that's just how she is.
Her heart's in the right place though..

Him, as in the one speading lies about you?

Hm...
That's really interesting.
Makes sense...
I really just want both sides to stop... Peacefully.

Ah, ok, I see. So, he commented on your art and then your friend felt the need to defend you?

Yes.

Yes... He was making me uncomfortable and we were voice chatting. She knows me quite well so she can tell when I'm stressed, annoyed, nervous, uncomfortable so she asked what was wrong and I told her, y'know, " Hey, this frederic guy is being kind of rude and he won't leave me alone. "
So-... She told him back off, and then he started threatening her. And then I got a bit defensive of course and... here we are.

All I wanted was for him to leave me alone for good, leave her alone and the whole thing would be resolved. But-... That didn't happen.
And he keeps leaving homphobic comments on drawings of my two characters whenever someone draws them together.

I know that her heart is in the right place and that, as your friend, she wants to defend you, but "agressive" doesn't sound like a way to stop it. That justifies him feeling hurt and being defensive or offensive right back. It won't end until there's no reason for it to continue. As your friend, she will listen to you if you tell her that her being nice no matter how either of you is treated is the best thing she can do for you, because, if people think that you're ganging up on him with your friends, his friends will gang up and it never ends. This isn't warfare. No one will bomb your contry if you stop fighting. Just don't leave offensive comments and you're safe both from retaliation and being reported.

I don't want people yelling at eachother, defending one side or another anymore... I just want the whole stupid thing to stop because it's really starting to hurt the both of us...

Okay...

I know this is stressful, but there are more important things in life to worry about, so I know you probably all want it to end. I'll give him the same advice I give you. Ignore comments you don't like or delete them, report threats, but only make positive comments back. It really doesn't matter who started what to Colors staff. I've seen them ban two people because they both left offensive comments on each other's art. The art belongs to the person who drew it. So, if someone comments negatively on someone else's art, even if it's your own OCs, they can decide to keep or delete the comment. Never start arguments in comments, since anyone can see them and misinterpret what's going on and get involved too. Just leave positive comments on the art of others and have discussions on your own art or the art of friends and you will be fine. If you do that, besides words on a screen, there is nothing else they can do.

I'll give more advice to him a little later too. For now, though I have to go. Don't worry, things will work out. :3

I'll tell her that...
She might not seem like it but she's sweet at heart... Even if what comes out her mouth might say otherwise.
...
I really hope this ends soon... I hate fights like this.

Thank kindly...
I really appreciate you giving your time to help.

I'll do my best to try and defuse this...

Thank you again for the help.

You're welcome! And I know she is a good friend and may be sweet, but if she does use profanity in comments on other people's paintings, they may report them, so it's best if she avoids that.

@FredericJM: I'll get to it tomorrow. Thank you for your patience. :3

Thank you!!! QuQ

^You're welcome! :3

I'm not sure what you mean by cringy. I looked through your gallery and your art is very cute, colorful and sparkly, with a distinct style. I also looked through some of your comments and couldn't find negative ones, so do they say things on other accounts or have you removed them from your own? If someone is harassing you on your own account, obviously you can block them, but they can say what they want on their own account so long as they don't make a painting that harasses you. Although I know I'm not seeing everything, from what I have seen, I suspect it may be a matter of perspective. That is, that most people are supportive and only a minority are not and that this would be true if every comment and user were counted and compared. I mean of those users who comment, since obviously most users rarely comment and many rarely even go on Colors and focus on other things (this seems to be 90 percent of followers, at least for me). But, no matter the percentage, it also matters the

value you place on each interaction you have online. What affects you more, the negative comments or the positive ones. Many people would say the negative have the biggest impact, but keep in mind that they don't know you or your life and so what they say is limited and may even be false. They may also just be in bad moods or generally unpleasant people. Even if everyone said your art was great, it would still be up to you to believe it. I've known people with thousands of followers and constant comments who were still very depressed and wanted to leave if they even got one single negative comment because they believed the negative ones and not the positive. It's up to you to believe in yourself and your art or else you'll fall for any negative person that comes along. Ask yourself, "Isn't my own happiness more important than what stangers think of me? Doesn't my art make me happy? Would I really want to give that up over online comments?" You are amazing, but it's not about me

convincing you. It's about you convincing yourself. Think of it as a challenge. Accept the challenge and be true to yourself and your art. Focus on the positive and don't even bother with the haters. There will always be people who don't like you. I mean, think of the most famous people throughout history, from Martin Luther King Jr. to Ghandi to Jesus. They were all killed, so even they had haters. It's just a fact of life. That's why only you have the power to control it. It's your life and no one can live it but you. You have value and worth no matter what others may say, but you have to accept that. The only truly wasted life is the one that ends too soon, so hang in there. Things do get better as long as you believe they can. *HUGS*

@Madame-Winter: What did you need help with?

@EmsyWhimsy: I removed both the paintings and am relieved the issues were resolved, especially the first one. If you need any more help, please ask. :3

@Abomination: It's hard to trust when you've been betrayed so much, but closing yourself off can be as painful as being betrayed. Just as bullies target people who look weak, you may be targeted because you believe things easily. There are trustworthy people out there, but the problem is finding them. No one wears signs rating their trustability, but there are clues. You can often guage someone's trustability by their reliability, so asking them to do a small favor and having them follow through could be a clue, especially if they repeatedly follow through. Also, look for people who are by themselves. They may be avoiding people because of trust issues like you, or they may just be uncomfortable around people. Either way, these kinds of people tend to be more trustworthy, so look for the quiet ones. It takes effort, but they're out there, so don't give up.

You're welcome! Just remember that we're all individuals and we'll all act differently. :)

NOW LANDON IS BRAGGING ABOUT HIM BEING BETTER THAN EVRYONE,THAT IS WHAT A DI.CK WOULD DO, IF YOU ASK ME, HE'S A TOLTAL JERK.
NEVER WANNA SEE HIM AGIN.
NYEH, I WANT HIM TO BURN IN H3LL. I HE'S LIKE: "I'm better than anyone! even myself, MY OWN BRAIN! I'm better than you, sqirt, and for you, NERD,
your not smart at all, WHO GOTS BRAINS NOW?!" I FUC.KING WANNA PUNCH HIM. HE WAS BULLIG CHASE, AND ME. NO, THAT'S NOT OK.

@Lil: Someone who brags wants to show off, which means they want the attention. One way to do that is by evoking emotions, like making you angry. You feel angry, giving you passion against him and giving him the power over your emotions. Being angry at him hurts you but does nothing to hurt him. So, try to work on letting go of the anger so he won't have that power over you. Only with a cool head will you be able to avoid his bullying. A bully's power comes from the fear and anger he creates in others. Remove that and his power deminishes.

K I'LL TRY THAT.

@EmsyWhimsy: You already have enough going on, so having drama on Colors is unnecessary. I would recommend first changing your password to something completely different from anything anyone knows. If Girl A comments on your work to upset you, just block her. Don't visit her gallery or discuss her with anyone else. Just let go and change the subject if it comes up with others. There is no way to prove your innocence by telling someone. Then it's just your word against another's. The only way is by your actions. If you go about your business online as usual and focus on art, she'll be the only one still dwelling on negativity, while you're focusing on spreading positivity. Also, if you need time from Colors, just take a break. You don't need to announce it or ever give out your password. You can let someone else tell others if you really must, but it's okay to have a life outside the internet. You don't need to appologize for not being online all the time.

Finally, focus on the things you enjoy, like art, games, music, friends, etc. Take time away from the stress and you'll find yourself feeling better. Be yourself and let others think what they want of you. Their thoughts don't change who you are, so find yourself and embrace being you. Take all the time you need.

@Lacey-VanillaBean: I don't have a Miiverse account, so I'm going to have to look into IP banning on there, which is what Colors does for users who just create new accounts after being blocked. In the mean time, I've uploaded a painting so other users can give you advice. I'll comment on there later under my main account (Rogue Ranger).

Don't you LOVE people that LITERALLY lies about being a princess, has 47 sisters, dad is a king, and I think she has had a 'near death experience' over 5 times. Meh, I'm just sharing to get other people understanding my situation. I already commented mine to the cat.

@PuppetPie: It should be obvious why someone would want to be royalty and have unique experiences. Everyone has things they wish for. But, since she likes expressing it in writing, maybe she should consider writing stories and post them online. Then she could share her fantasies without misleading people for attention. You could even suggest she write it out and share it. Maybe then she wouldn't feel she has to pretend with others. Sometimes people can get so into their fantasies they even seem almost real because it's so much better than facing reality, be it boring, lonely or painful.

Uhhhh WELL THE DESCRIPTION OF THE GALLERY ISN'T SHOWING UP, FOR ME...

You already helped me...AAAND Idk what happened to her, she just went missing...And I haven't really seen her boyfriend be on

Well yeah. I'm actually feeling pain about my fantasy world because I so badly want it real...Buuut I guess watching a comic dub or a story of Undertale. It DOES make things feel real. lol
Meh no one understands how I feel towards Undertale, it isn't some fangirl type of thing.

Or maybe thats just normal...Eh ill shush up now, I gotta go

@PuppetPie: I actually had a very similar experience. I wanted so much to live in the world of Animal Crossing. It felt like such a peaceful escape. Then, I wanted to live in the Power Rangers universe. I even wrote myself into a story and it felt real. The emotions ceratainly were real, including the longing. It would physically hurt sometimes because it felt like a need to be there. In a way, it was like an escape from the difficulties of this world to one that I felt more at home in. What changed things was when the cats showed up and other things happened that made me focused more on this world. Still, there are times I long for those worlds, but it isn't as overwhelming as it once was. I don't know if everyone is like that, but you're definely not alone. :)

If you'd like to be anonymous, I can upload the painting just saying Anonymous with your issue and then let you know it's posted and delete your comment here. Would that be fine?

A painting has just been uploaded for advice on your issue and I've deleted your comments so it will be anonymous.

A painting has been uploaded for advice on your issue as "Anonymous" and I'll delete your comment to keep it anonymous.

I don't want to type everything all over again so read my comment on the cat painting.

@Bully Free Zone Hi.. I have no clue if this account is even active but... I'm bullied. I need advice. At school, I get called fat and ugly. Its not fair, because the only reason I look 'Fat' is because my spine is curved so my stomach sticks out. On top of that, My teacher is a jerk. He sent me to the office one time because I took too long in the bathroom! He also teases me alot. My life Has just been really stressful and I'm just so sick of it.